When you first get married, you and your spouse are in deep amour; bad habits don’t annoy you and you find their quirks charming. As time goes on, those quirks and bad habits aren’t so cute anymore, and you come to resent the quirks as well as your spouse. You might even start to question why you married this person in the first place. But the fact of the matter is, this is the same person you fell in love with. So, what’s different?
With any new relationship, we go into the union with certain expectations. The problem is how we expect our partner to act and behave is unrealistic. When the honeymoon phase dies down, we are left with seeing our spouse for who they really are and not who we want them to be.
There is a way to bridge our expectations and what is real. Simply lower your expectations. This might not be the answer you wanted to hear, but you will be much happier in the end. If you are accepting of your spouse’s personality, you will realize it was the reason you fell in love in the first place.
Nobody’s perfect, neither your spouse nor you. But you are two people who complement each other. Becoming realistic about your expectations will remove any frustration and give your marriage the room it needs to blossom.
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