Learning to accept the death of a spouse takes time. Make it easier by surrounding yourself with trusted loved ones.
3. Avoid making big decisions
The loss of a husband or wife can impair your decision-making skills. Avoid making any big changes in your life, such as changing your job, religion, ending friendships, dating too soon, or moving.
4. Look into counseling
The loss of a husband or wife can be hard on you, especially if you are going through your grief alone.
A grief counselor can help you develop coping mechanisms, identify strategies to help you go about your daily life, learn to cope with loss and accept death, and find comfort in positive memories.
5. Take care of yourself
It may take years to accept the death of a spouse, but that doesn’t mean you should ignore your personal needs.
When grieving, depression may cause you to push your needs to the wayside, but you must continue to:
Get enough food and water
Maintain a social life
Visit your doctor and talk about any issues you are dealing with.
All these things are equally important for moving on after the death of a spouse.
6. Find a support group
Finding a support group online or in-person can be incredibly helpful for those dealing with the loss of a husband or wife.
Not only will others be able to relate to you in a way that your friends and family may not, but it can make you feel good to help someone who is grieving the loss of a spouse.
7. Educate others on how to help you
Dealing with the death of a spouse is easier when you have people you can talk to, but friends and family don’t always know the right things to say.
Explain to those close to you how to help someone who is grieving the loss of a spouse.
Do not tell someone who is grieving the death of a lover how they feel
Validate their emotions
Offer helpful distractions
8. Don’t be afraid of the future
The loss of a husband or wife is a hard pill to swallow. Accepting the death of a spouse means accepting that your life is going to take a different path than you had expected.
After you have given yourself time to heal, start looking toward the future.
Instead of dwelling on your pain, shift your focus to something you can look forward to, such as traveling, making big plans with friends, and dating,
The loss of a husband or wife does not mean that you are forbidden from moving on with your love life.
Your late spouse would have wanted you to move on and experience love and happiness again.
Grief after the death of a spouse is completely normal. How long you grieve your loss of husband or wife is up to you.
If you find yourself repeating, “my husband died, and I am so lonely,” don’t be afraid to reach out to loved ones for support.
Keep a journal of your feelings. This is a healthy outlet when you don’t feel like talking to others.
Find a support group or counselor. A counselor can help you learn how to accept death and the role it played in your marriage and will offer helpful tips in grieving the loss of a spouse.
Be vocal. If you feel “I’m missing my husband who died,” don’t be afraid to tell your support system or write down how you’re feeling.
If you want to help someone who is grieving the loss of a spouse, be mindful of your friend’s feelings. Stay away from topics that make your friend upset. It may be hard to see your friend in pain, but your endless support will mean the world to them.
Moving on after the death of your spouse may feel like some unknown, distant future, but you can get there if you follow these steps in dealing with the death of a loved one.
Do not force yourself to get over the death of a loved one. Healing takes time.
If you feel disconnected or frustrated about the state of your marriage but want to avoid separation and/or divorce, the marriage.com course meant for married couples is an excellent resource to help you overcome the most challenging aspects of being married.
Sylvia Smith loves to share insights on how couples can revitalize their love lives in and out of the bedroom. As a writer at Marriage.com, she is a big believer in living consciously and encourages couples to adopt this principle in their lives too. Sylvia believes that every couple can transform their relationship into a happier, healthier one by taking purposeful and wholehearted action.