It is often said that a happy wife equates to a happy life. That is a statement I choose to disagree with. I prefer the phrase, “Happy Spouse, Happy House” because it is inclusive of both parties. Nothing in a relationship or marriage should be one-sided. What’s acceptable for one is the same for the other. There should be a level playing field and equality. Granted, there will be sacrifices made as with anything, but it should not consist of one person doing all the giving and the other receiving. We should go hard for anything that our name is attached to. Our partners are a reflection of us and the one we choose to commit to.
How do you expect to attain permanence with a temporary mindset? One in which says it’s all about me, my wants & needs. When you enter the union of marriage, the I/me/my are replaced with us/we /ours. Meaning, it’s no longer all about you. There is someone else whose well-being, wants and desires should take precedence. Think about it this way. If you put your spouse first and they put you first, no one is left feeling unappreciated & overlooked.
Understand that you two are on the same team not in competition
So many married people walk around with a single mindset.That is a sure recipe for disaster. When you become married, things are supposed to change. It’s foolish to think that everything you did prior to exchanging vows can remain the same. Some places, people and things will become part of the past. You’ll hear whispers that you’re acting funny, etc. So what! Who cares what others think. Your primary objective is to build a foundation that thrives on love, peace & joy. You can’t do that with too many distractions. How does someone expect 100% from their partner, yet give 50%? Why are they held to a higher standard than we hold ourselves? You must create a blueprint for your marriage. It’s not what society says or your family/friends think. Do what works for you & yours. If the agreement is that the man pays all the bills, then so be it.
Make your marriage/relationship work for you
One who shares those expenses with his woman is no less of a man. Stop allowing the image of how you think it should be to distort your view of how it really is. Make your marriage/relationship work for you. Understand that you two are on the same team not in competition. So much more can be accomplished when couples work together rather than against one another.
You can only expect what you accept
If the understanding of marriage was clear, there would be much less divorce and broken homes. If people entered it with the concept of what they can give vs getting, how they can grow/thrive vs the complacency of remaining the same. Things could be so much better. At the end of the day remember this: you can only expect what you accept. If doing things a certain way seems to not be working, try a different approach.
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