One of the most important moments that we experience in our lives is when we get married, but what is the best and safest age to get wedded?
Not surprisingly, the age that you get married can often time also forecast your divorce susceptibility. The belief that getting married too early will also lead to an early divorce has been studied by sociologists over the years, and a report done by the Organization for Economic Co-Operation and development confirms this.
Couples who have decided to “tie the knot” over the age of 25 have a 50% less chance of getting a divorce, compared to couples who get wed in their early 20’s.
From a financial perspective, this proves to be completely logical because career-wise, couples who already have attained professional prestige have also achieved financial gain and stability.
Partners who are younger and less experienced are insecure about the future forecast of themselves, let alone that of the relationship in which they are engaged in.
Teenagers and young individuals in their early 20’s are often criticized by their family and inner social circles for the big decision that they are about to make in their lives. This can put an immense social pressure on them, and coupled with the insecurity of still being too young and inexperienced, often times the marriage will lead to a divorce in the following years.
This also goes the other way around
A study done by sociologist Nicholas H. Wolfinger has shown that couples that marry too late, over the age of 35, also tend to split up prematurely.
People who wait too long are more likely to be inclined to fail in their marriage because they are already predisposed to bad social interactions, and thus failing to cope with their spouse over a long period of time and sparking matrimonial quarrels.
Because relationships and individuals are complex, there is no concrete definite answer to the question.
The recommended age for men to marry is 32 years and for women 28, but this depends on many variables, which include the degree of understanding and caring that partners have for each other and career status.
Some of the things that we recommend you need to know and be aware of before deciding to make the big final step are:
Don’t forget that you’re marrying into another family
When you decided to link your life with another you’ll also inherit their family.
That means that you’ll also have to deal with their issues, stresses and new obligations that will be imposed on you more or less. Although this can also be a blessing and gain new loved ones that are always on your side, it can also go in reverse mode. There’s a myriad of couples that have divorced because of their partner’s in-laws.
Both of you have to make it work
You’re not alone in the marriage.
Think of the relationship as being a mechanism, and that you and your partner are the cobs in it that make it move.
If one of the cobs is blocked and not turning, then nothing will work. Communication plays a quintessential role in marriage. Understanding your partner and his or her feelings and point of view in a natural, caring and loving way is the key for things to work as you venture alongside them over the years.
Be ready for surprises
You can never get to know a person entirely, and if you are considering of spending the rest of your life with your partner, then you will have to get ready for surprises.
Most of them can be quite pleasant and unexpected, but some will also prove to be the opposite of what you might expect. That’s alright, because life isn’t made up of only happiness, but you have to know that you will have to learn to cope and enjoy some of the flaws that you might discover in your partner over the course of time.
Marriage is an amazing experience, and we consider that you should always take everything into account before you decide to make the big step and tie your faith together with that of your future lifelong spouse.