Being in a relationship is fun and lovely but if you are with the wrong guy, things might not be rosy the way you think. If you are dating the wrong kind of guy, things won’t work out well.
Although it might for a couple weeks or months, in the long run, you will understand the reality of who he is and then get frustrated and disappointed. The worst type of person to date will be a “narcissist” man. Yes, a narcissist is the worst type of guy to date. Here’s what narcissist men are all about and possible signs that you are dating a narcissist man.
According to Google, a narcissist is defined as “a person who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves, narcissists who think the world revolves around them”. But I feel there is more to the word “Narcissist”.
A narcissist will want everything to revolve around him. He will want to be the centrepiece in the relationship.
Below are some of the signs that you are in a relationship with a narcissist man:
1. He feels superior
A relationship is all about equality and love, but a narcissist man feels he is the Alpha and the only king in the relationship. He makes you feel irrelevant by putting himself above you and everything else about you. They feel entitled to receive some sort of soothing concern and compensation for being with you. The feel they even have the right to hurt you or demand apologies to “make things even.”
2. Lack of responsibility
It is known that narcissist wants to be in control but they never take responsibility. The narcissist never owns up to their own mistakes or inactions. They always find a way of blaming it on someone else. They don’t account for anything done, rather they blame you or circumstances for what happened.
Most often, however, the narcissist blames the one person who is the most emotionally close, most committed, loyal, and loving in his life—you.
Narcissists feel you are the safest person to blame because you are least likely to leave or reject him.
3. Lack of empathy
A narcissist shows no concern or pity for you or things revolving around you. A narcissist may prove nice at first but his true color will surface. You will look tired and down, yet a narcissist will stress you. Narcissists are not gifted with the ability to empathize with others. They tend to be very self-serving in their actions. They are also rarely apologetic, remorseful, or guilty.
4. Pretentious and manipulative
A narcissist has the tendencies to pretend and manoeuvre their ways.
They often pretend to be who they are not. Narcissists are often known to play many different characters. They can change who they are from person to person. He can even change the way he talks from person to person. When he goes out he is always in character. I must say, narcissist, are the best actors in the world. I must commend them for that.
5. Lack of communication
Just as we all know, communication is the key to a happy and successful relationship, the lack of it means that the relationship is toxic and detrimental to growth with a narcissist man. Communicating with a narcissistic partner is an uphill task.
You will not be able to communicate effectively while in a relationship with a narcissist.
Narcissistic partners are controlling and judgy, often stifling your voice in a conversation.
They will not be very encouraging of the accomplishments that you share with them, often even dismissive of your achievements. When you start feeling reluctant to share any good news with your narcissist partner, it is indicative of the relationship going downhill.
6. Narcissist men are always right, never wrong
Narcissist men always see themselves as the master of all, the one who knows all, therefore, they never admit they are wrong. They would never accept their contribution to anything that goes wrong and would gaslight you with fake pieces of evidence or fib shamelessly to prove that they are right. One of the most alarming signs of a narcissist man is their insistent urge to prove themselves as right, all the time.
He demands all your attention while he doesn’t give you any. The end result of a relationship with a narcissist man is disappointments, regrets and later divorce.
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