Have you seen the movie “Love Actually”?
It’s a feel-good movie with semi-independent arcs about different kinds of love and relationships. One arc is about Rick the Zombie Killer, in love with his best friend’s wife, the Pirate Princess.
He did everything he can to protect everyone and not reveal his true feelings that could ruin their friendship. But his love was so strong, that the Pirate Princess found out anyway.
Men don’t reveal their feelings to a woman for many reasons
The most common reason is fear of rejection. There are other reasons, some just as silly as the common one, but some are more noble and serious like Mr. Rick the Zombie Killer.
But just because they do not say it in words, that doesn’t mean he doesn’t cherish you, here are a few not-so-obvious signs he loves you.
He is jittery and anxious when you talk to him
When a guy stutters and have problems speaking to you, but doesn’t seem to have the same problem with everyone else, then it’s a good sign that he is into you.
The reason why he is stuttering is that there are hundreds of thoughts entering his mind, and he is being very careful about what he says in an effort not to embarrass himself.
On the other side of the coin, he probably hates you with a passion and is doing his best not to show it. He knows that fighting with a woman is distasteful, so take note. It’s your previous interactions that will tell if you’re his biggest crush or the pain he can’t get rid of.
He will never refuse to do you favors
Unless you’re his boss or something to that effect, a guy who will do whatever it takes to help you is clearly in love with you.
Men are selfish and simple creatures, but when they fall in love, they do crazier things than women do. Because unlike women, men are expected to be in control, they take pride in that.
Only love will let him give up that pride and allow a woman to take control over his entire being.
If they are just shy, or too afraid of rejection to tell you how they feel, then they will be content just to spend time with you. Doing favors for you will give them the opportunity to be close to you, and hope that you notice them then make the first move.
If you don’t feel anything for that man, stop seeing him.
Love or rather abusive love can be distorted in far darker ways and not worth having a puppy dog follow you around.
You don’t want to find out how dark it could be.
He gets jealous, but not jealous
Many women would think that guy like them because they actively try to get her attention.
A player will operate the exact same way, and experienced jerks can act in such a way that it will really look like he is into you. So how does a girl know how to separate the wheat from the chaff? Or rather to make it easier for women to understand, the Genuine Jimmy Choo’s from the China knockoffs.
The best way to know if a man is truly in love with you, it’s when they care about your happiness. He may get jealous if you are with another man, but he will care more about what you think that what he feels.
A player simply won’t care and move on. He may lash out for losing his prey, but you will notice that he cares more about himself than what you feel. If a person thinks of you as a possession or a prize to be conquered, then he will not take it lightly that you belong to someone else.
That is one big not-so-obvious sign that he loves you or just wants to be laid.
He will understand things about your past
Not everything about your past is a bad thing, for example, like having a child is a blessing, but for a man, the possibility of marrying someone carrying excess baggage is hard to swallow. But if he can look past things like that to be with you, then he really loves you.
But you wouldn’t know anything about that unless you have a heart to heart talk with him. But how would you know if he understands your past if you are not in that kind commitment?
If you are comfortable enough with a person, then you can be honest with them about your past. If they, in turn, are honest with you then you can see what he truly feels.
There is no foolproof way to spot a smooth player
What he says and what he does are two different things. Action speaks louder than any word.
Pay more attention to that. If in the end, if he still continues to show promise and even love your child as his own, then you have found a keeper.
There are many ways that a man can show his affection, there are more ways he can do to fake it. The irony in the game of love is the person who truly loves you, will find it hard to say it. But he will move mountains to show it.
The person who doesn’t really love you and just trying to get in your pants will flatter you with the sweetest words you ever heard, he may even open the door for you, and he will come so hard and so fast, you wouldn’t know what hit you. But when push comes to shove, he won’t be there.
There is no foolproof way to spot a smooth player. Only experience will allow you to spot them from a mile away, but that is another topic for another time.
This is about finding out if a particular man loves you
First, consider your own feelings. If you don’t feel anything for that person, then ignore everything.
Do not use and abuse someone who loves you. It is distasteful and can backfire.
If you do feel something for that person, then it’s a different ball game. Give him opportunities to show those flags. The more opportunities you give him, the more chances he will have to show those signs he loves you. If you are a woman who is not afraid of tradition and willing to take control of your own life, then be the first to confess your love. Congratulations.
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