You’ve been dating a wonderful man for a couple of months. You love everything about him: he is kind, funny, has a great job, and oh yes, he is gorgeous. You are sure of your feelings for him; there’s no doubt in your mind that this is love.
But what about him? Do you often tend to get lost over the thought- does he love me?
Now, how do you know he loves you too?
Let’s look at some of the giveaways… these are the glaring signs he loves you.
He focuses on you
Whenever you feel bugged by the nudging questions like is he in love with me or does he really love me, try to analyze if he pays attention to what you say or what you do.
Whether you two are in deep conversation over a glass of wine at a fancy restaurant, or just shooting the breeze over coffee at Starbucks, he is totally into whatever you are talking about.
He’s looking at you (and not scouting the room checking out other women), asking you questions, and, most importantly, remembering what you are saying. (He’ll ask you about it in later conversations.) When men are in love, they listen!
You are always on his mind, and he tells you so
He sends you silly memes, and he texts you just to say he’s thinking about you, he emails you photos of your last weekend together.
He might miss an important point during a meeting at work because he is fantasizing about you.
If a man loves you, you are ever-present in his head, even when you aren’t physically with him.
Yes, these are the obvious signs a man loves you.
He’s your emergency contact
How to know if he loves you?
Well, when a man really loves you, your heart will know it. You will inadvertently start trusting him, and you will begin to depend on him in your times of need.
So, you know those forms you fill out, like when you are seeing a new doctor? And there’s a space for “emergency contact information”? You’ve asked him if he can be that person for you, and he says, “of course!” right away. And you are his, too.
This means that should you ever need him to be there for anything, and he’s there. No hesitation. No, “oh hon, I can’t come right now…I’m leveling up!” He has made it clear that you can count on him for anything, emergency or not.
He touches you all the time
You know he loves you if he can’t keep his hands off of you, even if it is just a little squeeze around your waist or a light touch on your arm. These gestures involving a physical touch are not only limited to trying to get you to the bedroom; he enjoys feeling you in his arms anytime.
Sexual overtones or not, he just wants to feel your skin next to his.
These are the obvious signs a guy loves you, and now you can put your nagging question on does he love me to rest.
He can read your moods
Despite having a boyfriend and irrespective of you having physical proximity with him, if you tend to wonder- does my boyfriend love me, try to identify if an emotional connection exists between the two of you.
Your guy loves you when he knows, from the set of your mouth or the raising of your eyebrows, what you are feeling inside.
He can read you like a book from the way you purse your lips in reaction to something he has said.
He has looked at your face a million times and as such, needs no words to interpret what your expressions are saying.
He sits through some of those soppy Nicholas Sparks’ movies
“The Lucky One” may not be his cup of tea “ (he’d rather be watching “The Avengers”), but he knows you melt for Zac Ephron, so why not make you happy?
Besides, you’ll get so hot after watching Zac that he’ll reap the benefits of your heightened arousal…it’s a win-win for all!
If this is happening between you and your boyfriend, its time to kick away your lingering question- does he love me!
There are the signs your boyfriend loves you truly and madly.
He celebrates you
Does he love me?
Yes, he does, when he has no insecurities or ego. On the contrary, he celebrates you!
It’s love when your man is happy for your accomplishments (rather than being in competition or being jealous of you), encourages you to reach for the stars, and has constant, unwavering faith in your abilities to excel.
He is your number one cheerleader and will do everything to ensure that you can pursue your goals, such as giving you a quiet space to write that report for work, to offering to proofread it once you have finished.
You are his cheerleader too
Does he love me?
Of course, he does! He loves you enough to make you his go-to person when he needs cheering up after a bad day at the office, or motivation not to skip that workout.
He doesn’t need to pretend that he’s got it all together around you.
Love is knowing you can be vulnerable around your partner without fear they will reject you. When he cries in front of you, know that he loves you enough to show you his tears.
He talks about “us” rather than “me”
“We need to plan our vacation” has replaced “I’m going surfing with the guys this summer in Hawaii,” “Let’s go choose a new bed that we both like” instead of “My old bed needs replacing, I’m going to stop by Ikea on the way home and pick something out.”
There is no more reason left for the question- does he love me to pop up.
Decisions are now made with your input because he loves you and wants to make sure you are involved in all aspects of his life.
At the same time, it’s your responsibility to maintain the charm in your relationship. Even if your partner loves you, you need to put an equal effort into your relationship to go for miles.
So, watch this video to avoid common relationship mistakes, and aim for a happy and healthy relationship:
He is proud of you and wants you to meet his friends and family
Does he love me?
Well, not just he loves you, he perhaps wants the two of you to get happily hitched.
It’s with excitement that he plans a big party to introduce you to his group of friends, saying, “they’re going to love you!”. He’s anxious to bring you home to meet his parents, who he knows “will adore you”!
He is so proud to be with someone as great as you, and he can’t wait to show you off to his world. That’s love with a capital L!
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Rachael Pace is a noted relationship writer associated with Marriage.com. She provides inspiration, support, and empowerment in the form of motivational articles and essays. Rachael enjoys studying the evolution of loving partnerships and is passionate about writing on them. She believes that everyone should make room for love in their lives and encourages couples to work on overcoming their challenges together.