Sometimes, experiences leave us with questions we don’t quite know how to ask. If you’re unsure about something that happened to you—especially an encounter that felt uncomfortable, confusing, or left you emotionally unsettled—you might find yourself wondering: Was that okay? Was that consensual?
Sexual assault isn’t always violent or obvious. It can show up in subtle ways, especially when pressure, manipulation, or blurred boundaries are involved. You might have memory gaps, or feel uncertain because the situation was complex or disguised as something else.
This quiz is designed as a gentle, self-reflective tool to help you explore your thoughts and feelings around a situation that may be troubling you. It’s not meant to label your experience, but to support your personal reflection in a safe, guided way.
Please take care of yourself as you go through these questions. It’s okay to pause or stop at any point.
Note: This quiz is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional legal, medical, or psychological advice. If you're feeling unsure or need support, please consider speaking with a therapist, counselor, or someone you trust. Your feelings are valid, and you deserve to be supported.
1. Were you ever raped (or experienced such an attempt), fondled, touched, or forced to perform sexual acts?
2. Has this happened to you without you freely giving consent?
3. Has this happened with your initial freely given consent and desire to refuse later?
4. Has this happened with your freely given consent about one thing (e.g., a kiss) and then desire to refuse when asked about another (e.g., sex)?
5. Were you forced with objects, weapons, or physical force to consent?
6. Were you threatened psychologically or verbally to consent?
7. Do you feel unsafe or nervous as a result of such a situation?
8. Do you have periods of difficulties falling or staying asleep or nightmares after a similar situation?
9. Do you have difficulty thinking and talking about a similar situation or have memory blanks?
10. Do you feel confused, scared, ashamed, angry, or sad about a similar situation?
11. Were you intoxicated at the time of the act?
12. Did you feel pressured to give your consent for the act?
13. Did you feel safe with the other party?
14. During the experience, were you forced to do any act?
15. Did you ask the other person to stop or show signs you were uncomfortable?
