1. Are you both violent in the relationship?
2. Does your lover attack you for no reason every night?
3. Is your lover violent especially after drinking?
4. Does your lover call you names for no reason?
5. Has your lover’s treatment affected your everyday life?
6. Does your lover compare you to their exes on purpose?
7. Have you ever threatened to leave your lover before because of the way they treat you?
8. Do you feel emotionally drained because of how your lover treats you?
9. Has your lover ever beaten you up?
10. Do you sometimes provoke your lover, leading him to physically abuse you?