To be gaslighted is an awful feeling. If there’s the slightest impression that your boyfriend is trying to control you by manipulating how you feel, then you’re probably being gaslighted. Asking your boyfriend for permission and having to explain yourself every moment of the way is one of the important signs of gaslighting.
If in doubt, take this “Is my boyfriend gaslighting me’ quiz to clear your mind off it.
1. How often does your boyfriend try to guilt trip you into thinking your thoughts are crazy?
A. He does that very often
B. He does that sometimes
C. He understands me better
2. How often does your boyfriend strive to make you look bad?
A. As often as possible
B. In times when he’s moody
C. It has never happened
3. How often does your boyfriend use manipulative language?
A. Many. I can’t even count
B. He seldom does it
C. He’s never
4. How often does your boyfriend pretend to be unaware of your concerns?
A. He’s mostly nonchalant about my feelings
B. Occasionally he acts unconcerned
C. My boyfriend cares for me most
5. Do you doubt yourself?
A. Often
B. Sometimes
C. Never
6. Do you often find yourself apologizing for no reason?
A. Very often
B. Often
C. It has never happened
7. How often are you free to make decisions in your relationship?
A. I’m so restricted
B. I have freedom but limited
C. My liberty is unlimited
8. Is your boyfriend’s behavior often excused?
A. Yes, very often
B. Yes, but sometimes
C. Not at all
9. Does your boyfriend capitalize on your insecurities?
A. As much as he can
B. Yes, he does sometimes
C. He doesn’t do that
10. Do you truly feel you’re being gaslighted?
A. Yes, I’m convinced
B. Not certain about that
C. No, I’m not
