1. How often do you spend quality time with one another?
A. Very often
B. Often
C. Rarely
D. Never
2. How do you usually resolve conflict?
A. We think about one another's perspective and try to reach a resolution
B. We argue for a bit and take some space, but eventually apologize to one another
C. We fight and call each other names and take some space
D. We ignore each other and eventually calm down
3. How often do you compliment one another?
A. Very often
B. Often
C. Rarely
D. Never
4. How often do you go to bed together (sleep not intimacy)?
A. Very often (usually every night)
B. Often (a few nights a week)
C. Rarely (12 nights a week)
D. Never
5. How often do you argue with your spouse?
A. Never
B. Rarely
C. Often
D. Very often
6. How well do the two of you communicate?
A. Very well
B. Pretty well
C. Average
D. It could be better
7. How similar are your religious, political, and philosophical views?
A. They're exactly the same!
B. a) They're exactly the same!They're pretty similar, with a few differences
C. Not very similar
D. They're completely different
8. Has one of you ever cheated?
A. No, never
B. No
C. We've thought about it but would never act on it
D. Yes
9. How often are you intimate with one another?
A. Very often
B. Often
C. Rarely
D. Never
10. How do you decide on dates and nightly plans?
A. You both decide together in a fair way
B. We both argue and the best idea wins
C. We take turns
D. We fight and end up canceling plans
11. What if your partner doesn’t like one of your friends?
A. It doesn’t matter
B. Making peace with one friend is not a big deal for them
C. Your partner refuses to meet them
D. Your partner asks you to stop seeing them
12. Has your partner been emotionally or physically abusive?
A. Never for both of us
B. We argue but there is no violence ever
C. We do but we apologize instantly
D. Yes they are repeatedly abusive
13. How do you feel around your partner?
A. Comfortable and content
B. Excited
C. Bored
D. annoyed
14. How do you feel about your future together?
A. Confident
B. Hopeful
C. Confused
D. Stuck
15. Your spouse has had a rough day. What do you do to make them feel better?
A. Make them a nice dinner and spend the night hanging out
B. Kiss them and make them a nice dinner
C. Give them a hug or massage
D. Nothing
