The idea of romance and sexuality created by movies, or TV, is just one approach to seeing the two. Real life is far different and much more exciting than what is shown. We all eventually find our unique ways to express love to the ones we are with. Romantic relationships are usually expected to behave in certain ways. But there is a large community of people who think otherwise. The AVEN (asexuality visibility and education network) consists of people who do not feel the need to establish a romantic or sexual relationship with their partners. You may get repulsed by the idea of romance, sex, or both when thinking about a relationship. To find out if you are either or both, or neither by taking our ‘'Are You Asexual or Aromantic?'’ quiz.
1. What is the first thing you notice in a person you get attracted to?
A. Their body
B. Their behavior with people around them
C. I’m not sure
2. Do you want to be in a monogamous relationship?
A. Yes, for sure
B. I can’t say
C. I don’t think so
3. Does the idea of romance disgust you?
A. Yes, 100 percent
B. No, but I am not crazy about it
C. Yes, sometimes
4. Do you think sex is an overrated expression of love?
A. Yes, I do
B. Maybe
C. Yes, but it’s fun sometimes
5. Are you looking for someone to co-parent with?
A. Yes, I am
B. No, I am not
C. Not right now, but at some point
6. Do you think you will feel unhappy in a long-term relationship?
A. Yes, I will
B. No, but this feeling keeps changing
C. I am not sure
7. Do you like watching romantic movies or romantic-sexual comedies?
A. No, I don’t
B. Yes, I do
C. Rarely
8. Do you ever take the first move to get physically intimate with your crushes?
A. Yes, sometimes
B. No, I try not to bring sex into the equation
C. Only if they ask for it
9. What qualities do you look for in a potential partner?
A. Similar interests
B. Physical attractiveness
C. Sense of humor
10. How important is communication in a relationship?
A. Extremely important
B. Somewhat important
C. Not very important
11. How do you handle conflicts in a relationship?
A. I try to avoid them
B. I confront them head-on
C. I compromise and find a solution
12. What are your thoughts on marriage?
A. I want to get married someday
B. I'm not sure if I want to get married
C. I don't believe in marriage
13. How important is physical intimacy in a relationship?
A. Very important
B. Somewhat important
C. Not very important
14. How do you behave when your partner asks for sex?
A. I don’t mind it
B. I try to talk about things that turn them off
C. I feel uncomfortable but don’t always show
15. What is your idea of a romantic date?
A. Something adventurous
B. Something like the movies
C. Something that doesn’t involve romance
