Movies and TV shows often present a narrow view of romance and sexuality, but real life is far more diverse and exciting. Each of us finds unique ways to express love. While romantic relationships are typically expected to follow certain norms, there is a large community that feels differently.
The AVEN (Asexuality Visibility and Education Network) includes individuals who don't feel the need for romantic or sexual relationships. If the idea of romance, sex, or both feels unappealing to you, our "Are You Asexual or Aromantic?" quiz can help you understand your feelings better. Take the quiz to explore your unique relationship preferences.
1. What is the first thing you notice in a person you get attracted to?
A. Their body
B. Their behavior with people around them
C. I’m not sure
2. Do you want to be in a monogamous relationship?
A. Yes, for sure
B. I can’t say
C. I don’t think so
3. Does the idea of romance disgust you?
A. Yes, 100 percent
B. No, but I am not crazy about it
C. Yes, sometimes
4. Do you think sex is an overrated expression of love?
A. Yes, I do
B. Maybe
C. Yes, but it’s fun sometimes
5. Are you looking for someone to co-parent with?
A. Yes, I am
B. No, I am not
C. Not right now, but at some point
6. Do you think you will feel unhappy in a long-term relationship?
A. Yes, I will
B. No, but this feeling keeps changing
C. I am not sure
7. Do you like watching romantic movies or romantic-sexual comedies?
A. No, I don’t
B. Yes, I do
C. Rarely
8. Do you ever take the first move to get physically intimate with your crushes?
A. Yes, sometimes
B. No, I try not to bring sex into the equation
C. Only if they ask for it
9. How do you behave when your partner asks for sex?
A. I don’t mind it
B. I try to talk about things that turn them off
C. I feel uncomfortable but don’t always show
10. What is your idea of a romantic date?
A. Something adventurous
B. Something like the movies
C. Something that doesn’t involve romance
11. What qualities do you look for in a potential partner?
A. Similar interests
B. Physical attractiveness
C. Sense of humor
12. How important is communication in a relationship?
A. Extremely important
B. Somewhat important
C. Not very important
13. How do you handle conflicts in a relationship?
A. I try to avoid them
B. I confront them head-on
C. I compromise and find a solution
14. What are your thoughts on marriage?
A. I want to get married someday
B. I'm not sure if I want to get married
C. I don't believe in marriage
15. How important is physical intimacy in a relationship?
A. Very important
B. Somewhat important
C. Not very important
