Are My Parents Too Controlling Quiz

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15 Questions | Total Attempts: 15519 | Updated: Apr 03, 2025
1. Do your parents expect total obedience and for you to always be on your best behavior?

No, definitely not 100% of the time
They don’t really demand obedience. It just seems they are constantly bothering me
Sometimes
Yes, all of the time
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2. Do you feel like you are allowed to be independent?

I can be independent most of the time
I can be independent to a certain extent, but they are constantly calling and checking in with me when I am not home
The majority of the time, I feel like I can’t be
No, it doesn’t feel like I am allowed to be independent
3. Have your parents ever used physical punishment, like slapping or pushing, to discipline you?

No, never
Very rarely, but it has happened before
Sometimes
Often
4. Do you often feel guilt or shame after making a mistake because of how your parents react?

Sometimes, but they are always supportive even if I do get in trouble for something
Sometimes. I feel guilty for letting them down, but I don’t think they are purposely trying to make me feel that way
Yes, all of the time
The majority of the time
5. Do your parents ever speak to you in a way that makes you feel small, unworthy, or not good enough?

No
Rarely
Frequently
They use physical means more than words
6. Do you ever feel like you can never do anything right and that what you want or feel doesn’t matter to your parents?

No, they don’t make me feel that way
Rarely
Yes, I often feel that way, especially emotionally
Yes, especially when it comes to rules and expectations
7. Do your parents put intense pressure on you to get good grades, and does it affect your ability to do well?

Not really
Sometimes
Yes, frequently
All the time
8. Have issues at home ever led you to act out or get into trouble at school or in your community?

Not really
Sometimes
Frequently
All the time
9. Do you feel like your self-esteem has been affected by how your parents treat you?

Not really
Sometimes
Yes, frequently
Yes, in everything I do
10. Have your home experiences made you physically aggressive or easily frustrated with others?

No
Sometimes
Rarely
Yes, frequently
11. Do your parents listen when you try to express your thoughts, feelings, or opinions?

Yes, they always listen and try to understand me
They listen sometimes but often cut me off or try to talk over me
They usually dismiss what I say or tell me my feelings are wrong
I do not feel safe expressing myself to them at all
12. Are you afraid of how your parents will react when you make a mistake?

Not really—they may be disappointed, but they are fair
A little, depending on their mood
Yes, I usually try to hide it or lie to avoid their reaction
Yes, I fear they will yell at me or hurt me
13. Do your parents try to control who you can or cannot spend time with (like friends, extended family, etc.)?

Not really—they trust my choices
Sometimes—they ask a lot of questions and worry a lot
Yes, they often tell me who I can and cannot see
Yes, they completely control who I am allowed to be around
14. Do your parents use emotional reactions (like crying, guilt trips, or silent treatment) to get you to do what they want?

No, they are pretty clear and direct
Occasionally—they get emotional, but not in a manipulative way
Yes, I feel like I am constantly made to feel guilty or responsible for their feelings
Yes, and it often makes me feel trapped or confused
15. Do you feel safe, respected, and supported in your home environment?

Yes, I always feel supported and safe
Most of the time, though it can be stressful
Not really—I often feel emotionally unsupported
No, I often feel scared, small, or powerless at home
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