Dealing with parents who are a little overprotective could seem like a barrier in your life when you are growing up and trying to be more independent. You know they love you and want what is best for you, but it also could start to feel somewhat suffocating. There is a fine line between being protective and being controlling, and if you have controlling parents, the situation could be much worse. It could leave you completely helpless and feel like you have a lack of autonomy in your life. Do you have parents that are too controlling? Take this controlling parents quiz and find out.
1. Do your parents demand 100% obedience from you and for you to be on your best behavior at all times?
A. No, definitely not 100% of the time
B. They don’t really demand obedience. It just seems they are constantly bothering me
C. Sometimes
D. Yes, all of the time
2. Do you feel like you are allowed to be independent?
A. I can be independent most of the time
B. I can be independent to a certain extent, but they are constantly calling and checking in with me when I am not home
C. The majority of the time, I feel like I can’t be
D. No, it doesn’t feel like I am allowed to be independent
3. Do your parents use physical means such as slapping, pushing, punching, etc., as a form of punishment?
A. No, never
B. Rarely
C. Sometimes
D. Often
4. Do your parents often make you feel guilty or ashamed when you have done something wrong?
A. Sometimes, but they are always supportive even if I do get in trouble for something
B. Sometimes. I feel guilty for letting them down, but I don’t think they are purposely trying to make me feel that way
C. Yes, all of the time
D. The majority of the time
5. Do your parents ever talk negatively to you or put you down?
A. No
B. Rarely
C. Frequently
D. They use physical means more than words
6. Do you ever feel like you can never do anything right and that what you want or feel doesn’t matter to your parents?
A. No, they don’t make me feel that way
B. Rarely
C. Yes, all of the time
D. Yes, all of the time
7. Do you struggle academically with getting good grades?
A. Not really
B. Sometimes
C. Yes, frequently
D. All the time
8. Do you get in trouble a lot in school or in the community?
A. Not really
B. Sometimes
C. Frequently
D. All the time
9. Do you feel like you have low self-esteem?
A. Not really
B. Sometimes
C. Yes, frequently
D. Yes, in everything I do
10. Do you often get into fights or become physically aggressive with others?
A. No
B. Sometimes
C. Rarely
D. Yes, frequently
