One of the great tactics of master manipulators is the ability to make other people feel like they are wrong, even when they are not. They tend to flip any situation from the focus being on them to the focus being on their accuser, creating feelings of uncertainty, guilt, and shame.
Such situations may occur in relationships, as well. If you are in a relationship with someone manipulative, it could be very confusing and frustrating. It could make you second guess yourself all the time, make your feelings seem invalid, and create a very uneven playing field in your relationship.
Do you think your partner is manipulative but is still unsure? Please take this short: am I being manipulated by my partner quiz to clear things out.
1. Has your partner ever asked you to do things for them and blamed you if they turned out wrong?
A. Yes, this has happened many times
B. Yes, but not all the time
C. It has happened a few times
2. Does your partner get jealous of your happiness?
A. Yes, all the time
B. Probably
C. I am not sure
3. Are they bothered about their image and compel you to lie to maintain that?
A. Yes
B. Most of the time
C. I think so
4. Is your partner an attention seeker?
A. Yes
B. Sometimes it feels like that
C. I am not sure
5. Do they promise and never deliver?
A. Yes, this has been a pattern
B. Sometimes
C. This has happened once or twice
6. Do you often find yourself feeling guilty for wanting to do things that you enjoy, such as spending time with your family or friends?
A. Yes, often
B. Sometimes
C. No, not really
7. Do you often feel criticized or talked down to by your partner, resulting in you feeling inadequate or inferior?
A. Yes, often
B. Sometimes
C. No, not really
8. Does your partner seem too busy, or do they dismiss conversations where you want to talk about your feelings?
A. Yes, often
B. Sometimes
C. No, not really
9. Do you feel like you have the same conversations with your partner over and over, but nothing ever seems to change?
A. Yes, often
B. Sometimes
C. No, not really
10. Does your partner often convince you that you are wrong when you bring up a concern or issue in your relationship, even if you know in your gut that you are right?
A. Yes, often
B. Sometimes
C. No, not really
11. Does your partner often turn things around on you and make you feel guilty or ashamed?
A. Yes, often
B. Sometimes
C. No, not really
12. Does it seem like your partner is ALWAYS the victim when you are having arguments?
A. Yes, often
B. Sometimes
C. No, not really
13. Do you feel like your partner often entices or provokes you on purpose in an argument, just to get you to say something they can use against you?
A. Yes, often
B. Sometimes
C. No, not really
14. Does your partner make threats or use emotional blackmail if you try to leave or break up with them?
A. Yes, often
B. Sometimes
C. No, not really
15. Does your partner often act like they don’t understand or don’t remember something when you bring it up in an argument, avoiding any fault or blame?
A. Yes, often
B. Sometimes
C. No, not really
