5 Secretive Points to Be a Happy Couple
Getting married is making you nervous? If the answer is yes, then not to worry we are here for you. Your nervousness is genuine and quite common. Everybody wants to be happy throughout life, but this is not possible alone you need to be with someone who holds you in your every single up and down.
Successful marriages need not be something special, or grand small efforts or act of kindness will take this out into a next level. It is a hype that problems arise after marriage. Work with your problems before marriage and afterward it will be easy and smooth going.
We have encapsulated 5 points about married life which you will find to be more fun and interesting than dating.
1. Focus on small things
Life is a journey, and you travel carefree when you are alone, but when you travel this tough road with someone, you have to walk matching up the pace with that someone special.
You have to take care of each other on every up and down. Along with this journey, every couple dreams of their future, they prepare themselves to achieve the biggest thing of their life. However, in this pace of achieving the big ones, they missed up the small things right in front of them.
Orient yourself in the right direction.
If you are thinking of something to work out properly, make small efforts beforehand rather than correcting major courses when it is too late. Prioritize your deeds to showcase your love and affection daily. This will remind you that you like each other.
Time to time small changes will lead you to the big changes.
Conflicts due to misunderstandings between couples end up in the chambers of relationship therapist for guidance and counseling. But a successful relationship works without a therapist.
This could be possible only if you care about how you talk with your partner rather than what you say and this is the main reason for the conflict.
Peoples always focus on saying rather than listening and understanding.
If you want your relationship to be in a wave of peace, then first listen and then understand. The entire process comprises of a few simple steps that are:
- Listen to what your partner is saying
- Think about why your partner has said that
- Try to figure it out what your partner has said why he or she feeling so
- What your partner is feeling and last
- What does this feeling mean?
Once you learn to this process and turns out to be your daily habit, you will indulge your conflicts into a solvable conversation, and this will ends up to be a successful marriage.
3. Work with small acts of kindness
Couples who frequently dream of their big day ending successfully, are more nervous about their after marriage life.
Good news for them is that everything will be easy and smooth going but they have to make small efforts daily. All they have to do is to follow the seven principles and the five secrets; it is which are simple but a lot to remember.
You need not to be so much grand – just a small act of kindness daily will work. You don’t need to waste so much money or your time from the busy schedule, it is an add-on to the small acts of kindness, but a simple thank you or a small surprise gift will make much difference.
Also, you can help out your partners on their daily schedule work or spend some private time with them. A simple small gesture can make much difference and initiates the positive feedback cycle which will build trust, intimacy, faith, care and ultimately, happiness in between you and your partner.
4. Don’t get too late
Every human being imagines their future – what it will be like so as to react upon it beforehand.
There are few others who are afraid of their lives after marriage because of their present relationship. If you are one of them, then please stop living into your hypothetical world and start living the present one.
Your misconception is that everything should go smoothly before marriage, problems should be faced when they arise and after that needs to be corrected.
If your pre-marriage life is rough, your post one will be the happier for the long run. This is because if you are solving something after every conflict then building a strong house with a firm base. If you love or care your partner then changing is not the case you should get adjust with them and their behavior, the rough ones need to be changed.
Where peoples care about each other, there will be some conflicts but give it a thought and work upon it before it gets too late.
5. Get intimated outside too
Every time it is considered that people need to be the stable one. Stable from mentally, physically emotionally, and economically – all these are connected to one another. Except for the economic one, all get controlled by certain hormonal impulse. All these need to be initiated, and these could be possible through intimacy.
Sex is the ultimate form of intimacy.
Yet it is ‘bedroom stuff’. However, simply keeping it inside will make feel unconnected. You should express your love outside your ‘personal space’ also by indulging into simple intimacy tricks like kissing, hugging, and getting a message from your partner.
The cuddling intimacy like kissing, hugging and a massage elevates the oxytocin level which is an emotional stability hormone.
Once you achieve emotional and physical stability, it will give you a mental peace which means you are stable mentally also. And since, you are mentally stable, you can easily focus on your economy.
So, intimacy is a key factor to keep you balanced in your life and makes your marriage successful also.
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