How Newlyweds Can Stop Acting Single
Marriage is a part of life. Most people plan on it, and for some, it just happens. Either way, once it does happen, you need to make lifestyle changes.
For most people, marriage doesn’t just happen. It is a long process of courtship, dating, engagement, until the eventual marriage. There are still cultures that have parents arrange marriages, but for the most part, the former is true for most individuals.
Single life versus married life
For the most part, being married is not any different compared to the time you were seriously dating, that is until you have kids. You have to be loyal to each other, devote your time and future to each other, give gifts and spend special days together, you know, romantic stuff.
Some couples even cohabitate before marriage, if you get married, it’s a requirement. There’s no point in marrying each other unless you are going to live together and have kids.
This post is not about a piece of paper that tells the government and financial industry how to treat you as a couple. It’s about your lifestyle as a single person and a married one. Most devoted single people with a boyfriend or girlfriend are not acting single, even if they legally are.
But some don’t. They keep their money to themselves, they still prioritize their hobbies and make decisions without consulting their partner. We are going to assume that before anyone married their partner, they are a loyal dating couple free of infidelities. If one or both partners are screwing around, marriage is not going to change that.
There are many important changes (infidelity should be a given) an individual should consider when they go from single to married. It is an important step to remember how newlyweds can stop acting single.
Money – Cohabiting and marriage mean a lot of your assets are now jointly owned. You cannot just spend it without permission from your spouse, even if you earned the money yourself./ The earlier you and your new partner discuss finances the better it is for your marriage.
Change priorities – Poker nights, clubbing, and all other activities that your partner does not enjoy need to go. If you can do cold turkey, that is better. Success in life, marriage included, is about choices->actions->habits->lifestyle.
Make the choice to avoid activities that would lead to temptations. Start building your life with your partner. If you need to relieve yourself from stress, then do it with your partner. If you need time alone, try to limit it to a few hours a week.
Big decisions – The best marriage advice for newlyweds is to ask each other’s permission. It doesn’t matter how trivial it is, do it. Over time, you will learn to sleep early won’t bother your spouse too much, but eating the last pudding or drinking the last beer does.
When it comes to big decisions, never assume anything. Matters such as naming your child, getting a pet, quitting your job, starting a business, buying a car, and anything else not considered trivial should be discussed with your partner BEFORE you make a move.
Married people are co-committed in most issues except violent crime. So it is not about respect, it is common sense to discuss with your partner about joining a megachurch religion before joining it.
Check in-check out – Most serious couples let each other know where they are, what they are doing, and if there’s an important change in their day.
A serious couple trusts each other, but there’s no harm in sending a short SMS informing your partner where you are, what you are doing, and what time you will be home.
It takes a few seconds. Pick up the habit of having your partner the first to know about any changes in your daily routine.
Prepare for the future – The moment you start cohabitating, you need to start thinking about large expenses that any married couple deals with in the future. Namely, children and a house.
The earlier you and your spouse put aside a certain percentage of your income to save for both, the better your life will be in the end.
Give up on some discretionary spending and increase your savings. You never know when you have a baby incoming and the sooner you are paying a mortgage rather than rent, the easier your future finances will be. It will prevent a lot of conflicts in the future.
Leave the grey area – Before marriage, some people still communicate with their ex’s, flirt with some people, and have friends with benefits.
Drop them. If you cannot leave them completely, for example, they are your workmate or the other parent of your child, keep the conversations civil and transparent.
Inform them about your decision to prevent any confusion and misunderstandings. Anything that can be defined as infidelity or emotional infidelity drops it.
A lot of married but want to be single individuals keep reserves for fun. If you want your marriage to work, don’t do it. If you are unable to do it, then you shouldn’t have married someone in the first place. Since you made your vows, stick to it.
Look like a marine, feel like a marine, act as a marine – This is a saying in boot camp. It can apply to marriages. Wear your ring, change your status on social media, if you are female, then start asking people to call you Mrs. —-.
If you start feeling and acting like you are married, it will soon sink in that you took the plunge and get used to it.
It’s very simple how newlyweds can stop acting single. Get your partner to sign off on everything, literally everything. As time goes by, it will get easier. There are a lot of people who believe that single is the new married.
They would rather cohabitate and do everything else that married people do except sign the papers. There’s nothing wrong with that, but if you did sign the papers, then fulfill your vows.
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