If you need to separate from your husband with no money you might be feeling overwhelmed, helpless, scared and even anxious at the prospect of separation. But the first thing to remember if you find yourself in this situation is that there are many women who find themselves in this position too, and there will be many more to come. While this doesn’t help your case, it will help you to realize that most women who need to know how to separate from their husband with no money find a way forward. Your path is probably just not clear to you right at this moment.  

Here are some steps you can follow to help you find a way forward if you are contemplating marriage separation

Step 1-  Regain some control

The first step to separate from your husband when you have no money is to start to find small ways to regain control of your life. Breaking down a big challenge such as separation into small manageable tasks is the perfect way to cultivate some power and to lead you toward your goal.  

If you are in a safe situation, the first way to cultivate a sense of being in control is to understand and accept that you’ll need a plan and some time to execute your plan. So developing patience and self-reassurance will be essential.  f you don’t work on such qualities, you’ll drain your energy before you’ve even got started which will not lead you toward your goal.

If however, you are in an unsafe situation, then you might not have the time to work toward your goals. Instead, your priority should be to seek respite from friends, family or a safe house as soon as possible. There are many charities and people who work with people in these situations over and again and have enough experience to help you move yourself and your children to safety. Seek one out and make contact as soon as possible.  

Step 2 – Assess what you need to do

It’s time to park the emotions and get down to business. Start to consider where you are now, what you’ll need when you leave and what resources you have that you can use. Be honest and frank with yourself. Concentrate on attaining the basics, not the dream.  

Questions to ask are-

• What are the basics that I’ll need concerning essential monthly outgoings, and in essentials for the home?  
• Who do I have in my life who might be able to help in some small way (remember it’s not just those directly involved with you, a friend of a friend may have been in a similar situation, if you attend a church they might support you-you never know how help can be provided if you don’t ask).  

• What services can I offer, or skills do I have that I can use in exchange for money.  Can you bake, provide childcare, work online.

• What have other women who have been in a similar situation done to separate from their husbands with no money?  Research online will guide you to plenty of ‘mum forums’ and Facebook groups, with plenty of people providing help, advice, and support for free.  
• What is the process of divorce?  Learn all about what you can expect, and what your rights are so that you are fully prepared.  
• How can I start building up, or enforcing a support network for myself and my children?

• What is the cost of rental properties in the areas that you want or need to live in?  Is there an area with lower rental prices but close to where you want to live?

• How can you start to make some money for savings beginning today, can you sell clothes on eBay, watch the neighbor’s pets or kids, cook a meal or clean for an elderly neighbor.  

• How can you use your current budgets to add to your savings? Consider adding an extra $5 or $10 to the food budget and putting it in some savings instead. Switching from branded products to supermarket brands, or reducing food waste to save on the food bills and then put those savings into a savings account.  If you don’t have an account of your own, it’s time to open one now.

• Learn about what types of financial support you will be eligible for.  It would be most appropriate if you some financial marriage counseling.

Step 3-  Make a plan

Next, work out how much you’ll need to get set up in a new place, figure out what you can take from the marital home and what you’ll need to replace. Research the cost of replacing the essentials too. Start saving. Start doing activities to earn money, as discussed in step two.

Plan time to spend on building your support network and developing knowledge about divorce and financial assistance. When you are close to saving up enough to move into a new home, start looking for properties to rent.  

Final take away

Along with following the above-shared divorce advice, work on yourself, assuring yourself that you can do it, and imagining a good life away from the marital home. Avoid doubt and worry as much as possible. Instead, spend as much time as you possibly can building your confidence, courage, and strength.