6 Ways of Finding Time for Romance as Parents

Cyndy Lane

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Updated: 19 May, 2023

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Make time to connect as a couple, even if it’s just one evening a week, so you grow closer and feel seen.
Create intimate moments like a candlelit dinner or a quiet walk after the kids are asleep, to nurture emotional closeness.
Put devices away and show affection through small, thoughtful gestures to reinforce care and keep romance alive.

There is no doubt that parenthood is a beautiful experience, a fresh new beginning that promises to enrich the lives of couples. However, parenthood calls for backbreaking work, mainly when the children are young, and you are still raising your family. Amidst such responsibilities finding time for romance as parents is next to impossible.

For many couples, it comes as quite a shock to find that they no longer have the time they once had to spend with one another and enjoy some romance.

Keeping the romance alive once the baby’s arrived is crucial for the long-term sustenance of your marriage.

You should remember that being a parent does not mean you have to give up on being romantic with one another. Yes, you are parents, but you are also still a loving couple, just as you were before the children came along.

It is all too easy for parents to forget that they are a couple and see themselves only as parents. However, a few simple tips can help to inject some of that old romance back into your relationship so you can be a loving romantic couple as well as being great parents.

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So, how to rekindle romance after a baby? Finding time for romance as parents is hard but the following points will give you some idea about staying lovers while raising kids.

1. Make time to spend as a couple

Well, one of the things you should do is try to make time to spend as a couple rather than as parents, even it is only for one evening a week. In fact, make ‘finding time to spend as a couple’ a daily ritual.

A lot of married couples these days arrange date nights where they get in a babysitter, get dressed up in your finery and heels, and head out for a romantic evening such as a nice meal out or a few drinks at a cocktail bar.

2. Plan a romantic dinner date at home

If you cannot or prefer not to go out, you can be romantic at home as well.

If you have younger kids, the chances are they go to bed pretty early. So, you can arrange a nice homecooked meal or even a takeaway meal, set the table with candles and soft music, enjoy a glass of wine, and sit at chat in the privacy of your own home in a romantic setting.

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You could even set the table outside on the patio if the weather is good.

This is one of the romantic and creative ways parents can find alone time after the little ones are peacefully tucked up in bed.

3. Leave aside your smartphones and other devices

Make sure you leave smartphones and other devices out of the equation. This should be a romantic time for you both to enjoy one another’s company rather than seeing what others are up to on Facebook!

Finding time for romance as parents is not easy but dedicated that time to your smartphone will not help you in anyway.

4. Snuggle up for a late-night binge-watching

Snuggle up for a late-night binge-watching Another great way to enjoy a romantic evening at home is to snuggle up for a movie night once the kids are in bed. You can select some of your favorite movies to watch and get some snacks and drinks in to enjoy while you snuggle up on the settee.

You will still be at home for the kids but at the same time, you will be enjoying some romantic ‘couple’ time.

5. Go for a romantic walk together

You can consider going out for a romantic stroll while your little one is peacefully asleep in the stroller. It is really a good way of building that connection with your partner and the fresh air will do good for your child.

Try avoiding areas which are crowded or have too much traffic. Too much loud sound or light is highly likely to disturb the tranquility of the moment and wake your little one from his sleep.

Finding time for romance as parents is not easy but taking a walk in the park together will do the job for you.

6. Show your affection, now and then

Just because you are married and have children doesn’t imply you should quit surprising your partner now and then. Showing affection by doing little things makes a lot of difference. Share a few love notes or text messages without any reason to show that you are thinking about that person.

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These gestures of love and kindness don’t take a lot of time and effort on your part, but they definitely reflect your love and care for them.

Final thoughts

This is your life, and only you can design it. Make time for yourself and your partner out of your busy schedule.

There are so many ways by which you can reignite the lost passion in your life. So never make an excuse that finding time for romance as parents is an unachievable and challenging task after you become parents.

So, if you want to enjoy a little more romance, try some of these solutions for yourself.

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