Even the most mature, healthy relationship has a little bit of drama from time to time. Meanings get missed, tempers flare and discussions turn into arguments. A healthy relationship is one where dramas are quickly smoothed over, and both parties are willing to put effort into smoothing things over.
A little bit of conflict here and there is inevitable, but if you want your relationship to grow in maturity. there are certain types of drama that you’re just too old to be dealing with.
Check out the top 7 below:
1. The green eyed monster
People get a little insecure sometimes. It happens. But how they handle it says a lot about how healthy your relationship is.
If your partner accuses you of sleeping around, or tries to stop you seeing certain friends, your relationship could soon run into trouble.
Going through your phone, checking your texts, trying to read your email or expecting you to be accountable to them all the time are all signs of out of control issues. You can’t have a healthy relationship without trust – and no one should feel pressured into checking in all the time. You don’t need this kind of drama in your life.
2. The “no idea where we are”
If you’re in the early stages of a relationship, it’s absolutely fine to not know what your relationship is or where it’s going. But if you’ve gone beyond the initial dating stage, you don’t need to be left hanging with no idea what’s coming next.
Refusal to define your relationship or an unwillingness to go exclusive or talk about the future all signal a lack of commitment. As your relationship matures, you want to know that your partner is as invested in it as you are.
If they can’t commit to the long haul, it’s time to move on.
3. The emotional brick wall
Good relationships are built on trust and openness. Your partner is someone you should feel safe to be vulnerable with – and you should be the same for them.
Emotional unavailability makes getting truly close pretty darn hard. You deserve to be with someone you feel real trust and rapport with. If your partner insists on keeping their emotional walls up – no matter what reasons they give – your relationship might just have run its course.
4. The “not very good at being an adult”
You’re an adult – and you need your partner to be one too. A partner who lives in a house so untidy it belongs on a network TV show or has no idea how to manage money will soon drain you. Your relationship will sag under the weight of all that chaos.
There comes a time in your life when you need a certain amount of order and stability. Living a wild carefree life is fun when you’ve just turned twenty, but it can soon wear thin. You need a partner who’s as ready for stability as you are.
5. The “show me you need me game”
Everyone needs a little reassurance from time to time, but if your partner needs constant reassurance from you, your relationship could be on rocky ground.
As you mature, you know that you’re responsible for your own self esteem and emotional needs. Naturally you want a partner who is open, affectionate and honest with you – but you also know you don’t need their reassurances 24/7 to feel secure and happy in your relationship.
If your partner is constantly texting you, calling you, or asking you if you really want to be with them, it’s time for the two of you to have a serious talk.
6. The “are they into me or not?” dance
At the very beginning of a relationship, it can be hard to tell if someone is really into you, and that’s ok. You’re both getting to know each other and figuring out if you’re a good fit. But after the first few dates, you should be getting a clear indication if they’re into you or not.
If your relationship has been established for more than a few weeks and you still don’t know if they’re into you, it’s time for them to be up front or ship out. Playing hard to get is a game no one wins.
7. The “Drama Llama”
Everyone has bad days. We’ve all had those moments where we get snappish, or feel like kicking the furniture. No matter how mature you are, people will occasionally try and drag you into drama, and you’ll need to extricate yourself.
But there’s a big difference between an off day, and being with someone whose life is a constant drama. If they make a show of getting upset over the littlest things or always seem to be in a fight with something or someone, it might be time for you to step away.
You deserve a mature, healthy relationship with minimal drama. Keep an eye out for these drama warning signs and nip them in the bud before they get out of hand.