You know those couples you see that appear to have it all together. Everything looks right, they’re happy, they’re close and they act like they’re best friends as well as life-partners. You might secretly wish that you could be like them.
Guess what? You can! There’s no great mystery to being in a close, emotionally connected relationship with your partner. In fact, it’s quite simple and basic, at least in theory.
So what do the happiest couples have in common? or what do successful couples have in common? Close and connected couples share some powerful habits of happy relationships.
Want to be in a relationship like this? Try working on developing these habits of successful couples. Here are the top 8 habits of successful couples.
Listen to one another
One of the most essential habits of successful couples is that they don’t over talk, they don’t interject, and they don’t interrupt.
They give their full attention to their partner and do their utmost to understand what their partner is thinking and feeling and what they are trying to convey. They listen with intention to understand, not to reply.
Encourage one another
Another important daily habits of successful & happy couples is that they spend time being supportive, encouraging and lifting each other up rather than tearing each other down.
They support their partner in making their dreams come true, including career goals, artistic and creative endeavors no matter the situation.
They are proud of each other’s accomplishments
They act so proud of their partner you’d almost think they both achieved the goal instead of their partner.
Such daily habits of couples in healthy relationships helps them use every opportunity to publicly brag on their partner and extoll their virtues and talents wherever they can.
They are willing to compromise
These couples understand that neither of them can have it all one way (or their way). They’re willing to concede a point, or give in to something their partner wants or needs simply because they want their loved one to be happy. The selfless habits of happy couples ensures that they do not have any ulterior motives of personal gain.
They will be there when they’re needed
Implore the habits of successful couple by giving no excuses, and always being there for your partner. When their partner needs them, they will be there even if it means moving mountains to get there. When one needs the other, they are always there for one another.
They are positive
They do not tear each other down, criticize or spread negativity in public or in private. They never resort to insults or name calling. They don’t blame their partner when things go wrong. They look for solutions not blame.
They are physically connected
They share touch, hug, hold hands, drape their arms around each other. They are joined at the hip most of the time. That close proximity also extends to a healthy and passionate physical /sexual relationship.
They are unified both publicly and privately
There is no distinction between them. They are an “us”, a “we”, and never play one against the other. They never try to pursue their own individual gain and they always make the relationship a priority. Relationships like this are protected.
They always consider the impact of their decision-making on their partner and their union. They are a team, an unstoppable force. They celebrate together, weep together, and soldier through hardship together.
Can you say that you and your spouse or partner fit into these categories? Do you have these habits of successful couple? If not, you can start cultivating them now. All of these habits can be developed to create a stronger, close and connected relationship between you and your partner.
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