There is a very blurry line when it comes to differentiating between being friendly or flirty. It, as always, depends upon the person on the receiving end. If a man is at the receiving end, they will probably label of a friendly woman to be flirtatious; and a woman would, most probably, label a flirtatious man as someone who is just being friendly.
The line is very blurry, and it all boils down to the intention of the said person. There are some people who are naturally very charming and forthcoming that they are perceived as a flirt whereas they never intended that to happen. Therefore, intention is extremely important.
It does often happen with people who are in relationships, that if one of them is a natural flirt or is just a bit too friendly, and is being perceived as a flirt, what should they do? It is natural for couples to be jealous of potential prospects for their better halves or significant others, especially in the early stages of the relationship which does lead to men (generally) questioning their relationship.
Flirting for Fun vs Flirting with Intent
Another point to ponder on is to find out whether the person is just teasing (a.k.a. flirting for fun), or are they really interested in you? Harmless flirting where the opposite party has a clear cut idea that you are just teasing can be profitable for both parties. It helps with the boost of self-esteem and confidence, and you can end up having a good laugh as well.
However, if the boundaries are not drawn clearly, one can end up with a broken heart as well.
Flirting for fun
As mentioned above, flirting can do wonders for your morale boost and self-confidence. Dress up, go to the nearest bar, and just let loose. With zero strings attached, you can truly let yourself go without thinking about each and step or word that leaves your mouth.
However, when people flirt with zero aim or intention, it can be taken as being a tease. There is no intention of taking the relationship forward. The plan, usually, is just to spend some time and never see each other again.
If you are a natural (harmless) flirt or just friendly and that upsets your significant other, then try and understand the reason behind it. No one is asking you to change yourself, but it would be wrong to try and change your counterpart as well. Find the reason behind the insecurity and deal with it.
Flirting with intention
A no brainer, when someone is seriously interested in you, they would flirt with intent. They wish to spend quite a significant amount of time together. They have some sort of plan that involves the two of you together.
If you are looking to settle down or if you feel like you have found the one, then this is the kind of flirting to go for.
Though there are cues, certain actions or movements that cannot be labeled as just flirting by any way or form. For example:
- Numerous and unnecessary physical contact
- Context of the conversation – deep, meaningful conversational topics
- Multiple or out of place compliments
- Playfully teasing
- You will be their focus of attention and the center of their universe
- Prolonged eye contact
- The infamous, non-verbal cues
If you are in love, if you have found the one, then a little bit of flirting or being friendly will not matter; because you will understand your better half, you will know that they are yours and vice versa and no power on earth will be able to change that.
However, that kind of intimacy and understanding takes time and effort. Nothing of importance is easy to achieve, it is up to you then how you de-escalate the situation and think of the big picture.