On average, men are simple creatures who only require a few must-haves to keep them happy in their marriage. However, as married couples fall into cruise control, and get caught up in the day-to-day stresses of life, we can forget to maintain the spark, as well as the overall connection in a relationship. When men lack certain things in a marriage, over a long period of time, they can become disillusioned by neglect, that can even push the most patient man to his breaking point. This list could be a wake-up call for any wife who has allowed the critical needs of her spouse to fall by the wayside.
Cheating is often cited as a reason for filing for divorce.It is popular opinion that men find this indiscretion a bit harder to overcome than their counterparts. However, the affair is never the root of the reason for the deterioration of the marriage, it’s typically more of a symptom, rather than the actual issue. The breakdown of the marriage can usually be attributed to more serious problems at the heart of the relationship.
2. Lack of appreciation
A man who has little to no appreciation for his marriage is a man who will soon be headed for the door. Even the nicest guy will hang in there for an extended period of time, but after a while, the feeling of resentment that follows feeling underappreciated is very difficult to ignore.
3. Lack of affection
It could be that there is a chill in the bedroom or even hand holding has ceased. Men interpret lack of affection as their spouses no longer being attracted to them. Lack of affection in a marriage can actually be looked at as a subtle form of rejection, pointing at a bigger issue in the relationship.
4. Lack of commitment
In a recentstudy approximately 95% of couples cited lack of commitment as a reason for divorce. But what does that really mean exactly? It’s an erosion of dedication, loyalty, fidelity, and overall devotion to the relationship. When marriages go through hard times, as all marriages do, both partners need to know that they are in allegiance and in the trenches together. If the husband suspects that there is no commitment coming from his spouse, and there are no efforts to re-establish the bond, it can leave him feeling alone, hopeless and on the phone to his attorney’s office.
If you feel disconnected or frustrated about the state of your marriage but want to avoid separation and/or divorce, the marriage.com course meant for married couples is an excellent resource to help you overcome the most challenging aspects of being married.
Nadiyah is the author of The Smart Woman's Guide To Dating And Relationships. Nadiyah is a relationship expert, motivational speaker, author and tv host. Nadiyah believes that relationships are the foundation of strong families and communities, and it is essential to learn to navigate those relationships with principles rooted in the word of God. Nadiyah maintains a Master's degree in Strategic Communications, a minor in Sociology, a Bachelor's in English, and attended Pepperdine University and the University of California Riverside. These two degrees, her faith, life experience, and nearly a decade of marriage, have provided her with a strong foundation and practical insight in interpersonal communications and relationships. Further professional training through the American Psychotherapy Association as a board Certified Relationship Specialist has allowed Nadiyah to bring a multidimensional approach to her work.
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