Lessons Before Marriage: 101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married

What if there was a way you could learn all the essential relationship lessons before marriage instead of waiting for the same mistake that most couples make? Wondering how that’s possible?

Do you find yourself looking at something like 101 things I wish I knew when I got married?

It’s simple; there’s a best-selling book to give you the essential lessons: 101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married by Charlie Bloom!

The idea of ‘101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married’

The authors, Charlie Bloom, and his now-wife Linda met when they were just in their early 20s and fell in love. At just 25, both of them got married with their first child arriving only after eighteen months.

Charlie states that since they were young, they made so many mistakes that were enough to fill up a whole book.

Then, twenty years later, Charlie’s younger sister was getting married, and she had invited him to say something inspirational at the wedding.

When Charlie couldn’t find anything that really fitted the occasion, he asked his sister if he could say some things to know before getting married.

When Claire agreed, Charlie came up with roughly 20 one-liners of things to discuss before marriage to read at the wedding. The guests quite loved them and even asked Charlie afterward to send them a copy of his notes of things to talk about before marriage which gave birth to the idea of the book 101 Things  I Wish I Knew When I Got Married that answered all the questions about what to know before getting married.

Selecting the 101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married

While coming back from LA to the North and even after the trip was over, both Charlie and Linda came up with numerous more one-liners for things to consider before getting married.

Instead of continuing to add to the list, the couple decided to shorten the list, which had almost 300 one-liners by then. So, the couple now worked on including only the best 101 one-liners for essential things to know before marriage and added a short vignette of a few pages to each one.

Some one-liners without their stories

Here are some eye-opening things couples should talk about before marriage. Marriage is the new phase of life that looks like a fairytale world, but for sure, it requires a lot of effort. 

So, how to know if you should get married?

Take the guide to some valuable lessons before making the plan.

1. No prince is going to come
2. Resisting temptation just to prove your own point will get you many points
3. Commitment is not a prison; it leads to greater freedom
4. Vulnerability is disarming
5. The joy and fulfillment that one gets from a loving partnership is so much more than one can perceive

Overview of the book-  101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married

101 Things  I wish I knew when I got married is essentially a collection of timeless pieces of wisdom that will always be relevant.

Apart from being enlightening, the one-liners are fun and easy to read too. Its purpose is to make readers realize that any relationship requires some work, but it is worth all the necessary effort.

Why the book is a must for all couples today

With the divorce rate going as high as 60%, couples often lack the understanding and the skills needed to maintain a committed relationship.

Both the authors present 101 short snippets of wisdom that offer practical guidance required before marriage.

In the video below, Dr. Gary Chapman discusses his journey of writing the book, disclosing five love languages,s and explaining why it is important to understand your partner’s love language.

The 101 things also make it quite clear that regardless of a person’s past experience with relationships, anyone can develop the basic skills, capacities, and the strengths needed to enjoy an ideal relationship.

Each lesson is basically a simple one-line thought that is followed by a short explanation with real-life examples.

Overall, this book shows how it is possible for couples to enrich their relationships by making their way through the challenges that love and life throw at them.

Should you get ‘101 Things  I Wish I Knew When I Got Married

With this book, a person can understand things and different perspectives before marriage while entering into the institution. Also, couples can find practical ways of connecting as well as reconnecting with each other.

It includes the skills and support needed to step into the unknown parts of your relationship so that it can flourish further. If you are unsure and need the answer to the question, “Who will I marry?” or are want to start off the journey with full preparation, the book is right for you.

The bottom line is that it’s for those who have ever been or will commit to a partnership.

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Rachael Pace is a noted relationship writer associated with Marriage.com. She provides inspiration, support, and empowerment in the form of motivational articles and essays. Rachael enjoys studying the evolution of loving partnerships... Read more and is passionate about writing on them. She believes that everyone should make room for love in their lives and encourages couples to work on overcoming their challenges together. Read less

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