At some point in every relationship, things start to change a bit. The initial infatuation subsides, and you start settling into a normal day-to-day life together.
There is nothing wrong with that! However, sometimes as we start settling in, we also start noticing things that might be concerning.
If you have any doubts about your relationship and think he might be just using you instead of being really in love, take this How to Tell if Your Boyfriend Is Using You quiz to see if your intuition is right.
1. What is your communication like when you aren’t together?
A. He says he is busy a lot, but he will text after work to check-in.
B. We communicate pretty regularly throughout the day.
C. We communicate daily, but not very frequently.
D. He is terrible at answering his phone and texts!
2. Does it ever seem like he doesn’t even care how you feel?
A. No, he is very caring.
B. Not really, but it sometimes seems like he’s indifferent towards my feelings.
C. I do feel like he doesn’t care, but I am not sure yet
D. I feel like he doesn’t care at all about how I feel.
3. Would you say he is affectionate and makes you feel special?
A. Yes, he makes me feel special and is always affectionate.
B. He is affectionate in the bedroom and sometimes, when we are spending time together, but I don’t feel like he ever goes out of his way to make me feel special.
C. He is affectionate only in the bedroom. But when we are not together, I feel like I am not important to him at all.
D. Yes, he is affectionate when we are together, but he can improve a bit more!
4. How would you describe your closeness and intimacy on an emotional level?
A. When we do talk about it, I feel like I have to pry it out of him
B. He has opened up to me about a lot of things in his life
C. He opens up, but sometimes it seems like he is very guarded
D. He doesn’t tell me anything about what is going on in his life, and I always feel a disconnect in our relationship because of it
5. When he talks about the future, does he include you in his plans?
A. Yes, but only in a hypothetical sense without talking specifically about “our future.”
B. He will talk about his future, but he doesn’t mention what role I play in it
C. He doesn’t even tell me his plans for the future
D. Yes, we both have plans for the future, but it is still early in our relationship
6. Do you think he is selfish?
A. Yes, sometimes I feel like he only cares about what he wants.
B. No, he seems genuine and caring.
C. Rarely I do, but there have been a few instances I felt that way.
D. Yes, I feel that way all the time.
7. Which answer below best describes your ability to compromise in your relationship?
A. I am always trying to work around his schedule to fit in time together. He spends time with me when it is convenient for him.
B. I feel like we both compromise on things, but sometimes I feel like I am more flexible
C. We both compromise; it’s never about who does less or more.
D. I don’t think he compromises with me, but he thinks he does
8. Do you often feel like he disappoints you?
A. We have had disagreements, but I wouldn’t say it makes me feel disappointed.
B. I don’t know if I would say it happens often, but it happens more than I would like.
C. He just isn’t very dependable. He does disappoint me!
D. He does, but overall, I would say he is pretty reliable.
9. How often does he take you out either with friends or just the two of you?
A. It’s typically just the two of us. Despite asking for it, he hasn’t introduced me to his friends.
B. Sometimes we are with friends, but mostly it's just us
C. We spend a decent amount of time together, sometimes with friends or sometimes just the two of us.
D. We rarely go out on dates; usually, his friends tag along.
10. Do you feel like he uses you for money, sex, or other things?
A. I feel he remembers me only for sex or money.
B. No, I don’t think so!
C. No, he doesn’t use me. But, he does take me for granted
D. I feel like he uses me for my kindness.
