How To Tell If Your Boyfriend Is Using You Quiz

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20 Questions | Total Attempts: 1797 | Updated: Apr 22, 2025
1. How does your boyfriend communicate with you when you express your needs and concerns?

He never dismisses or minimizes my feelings and needs
He listens attentively and tries to address my concerns.
He sometimes acknowledges my concerns but doesn't take much action.
He consistently disregards my needs and dismisses my concerns.
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2. Does your boyfriend actively listen when you share important thoughts or feelings?

He listens attentively, gives thoughtful responses, and makes me feel heard.
He listens, but sometimes I feel like he doesn't fully understand or engage.
He listens, but I often have to repeat myself or feel unheard.
He tends to dismiss or ignore my thoughts and feelings.
3. How does your boyfriend react when you need emotional support?

He's always there to comfort me and offers emotional support when I need it.
He's supportive but sometimes struggles with knowing how to help.
He tries to offer support, but it feels more like he's just going through the motions.
He doesn't offer much emotional support when I need it.
4. How often does your boyfriend make an effort to show appreciation for you?

He expresses gratitude regularly, both through words and actions.
He shows appreciation, but it's not consistent.
He occasionally shows appreciation, but it's rare.
He rarely expresses appreciation or seems to take me for granted.
5. Does he make an effort to understand your point of view?

He always tries to understand how I feel and why I think the way I do.
He makes an effort, but sometimes it feels like he doesn't completely get it.
He listens, but I often feel like he doesn't fully consider my perspective.
He doesn't seem interested in understanding my point of view.
6. How does your boyfriend react when you have a disagreement?

He listens carefully and tries to find a solution together.
He gets defensive but eventually calms down and talks it through.
He doesn't really engage in resolving the issue and tends to avoid it.
He shuts down or gets angry, making it hard to have a constructive conversation.
7. How does your boyfriend prioritize spending time with you?

He never cancels plans or makes excuses to avoid spending time with me.
He is hesitant to initiate plans but is willing to spend time when I suggest it.
He occasionally makes time for me but often prioritizes other activities or friends.
He rarely puts in the effort to spend time with me, often choosing other activities
8. How does your boyfriend respond to your personal achievements or successes?

He shows interest or enthusiasm in my accomplishments.
He seems happy for me but doesn't express it openly.
He sometimes acknowledges my achievements but doesn't offer much support.
He doesn’t show much interest in my achievements or downplays them
9. How does your boyfriend handle financial matters in your relationship?

He never asks for money or financial favors without reciprocating.
He is reluctant to discuss finances or contribute equally.
He occasionally shows some financial support but not consistently.
He consistently relies on me for financial support without making an effort to contribute.
10. How does your boyfriend treat you in public or around his friends?

He always acknowledges me or introduces me to others.
He is a bit reserved but still shows some signs of affection.
He is inconsistent in his behavior, sometimes being affectionate and other times distant
He tends to ignore me or acts distant around his friends
11. What is your communication like when you aren’t together?

He says he is busy, but he checks in after work
We communicate pretty regularly throughout the day.
We communicate daily, but not very frequently.
He rarely responds to texts or calls
12. Do you feel like he uses you for money, sex, or other things?

I feel he remembers me only for sex or money.
No, I don’t think so!
No, he doesn’t use me. But, he does take me for granted
I feel like he uses me for my kindness.
13. How often does he take you out, either with friends or just the two of you?

It’s typically just the two of us. Despite asking for it, he hasn’t introduced me to his friends.
Sometimes we are with friends, but mostly it's just us
We spend a decent amount of time together, sometimes with friends or sometimes just the two of us.
We rarely go out on dates; usually, his friends tag along.
14. Do you often feel like he disappoints you?

We have disagreements, but they don’t leave me feeling disappointed
It doesn’t happen often, but it does more than I’d like
He isn’t reliable, and I often feel let down
He does, but overall, I would say he is pretty reliable.
15. Which answer below best describes your ability to compromise in your relationship?

I am always trying to work around his schedule to fit in time together. He spends time with me when it is convenient for him.
I feel like we both compromise on things, but sometimes I feel like I am more flexible
We both compromise; it’s never about who does less or more.
He says he compromises, but I feel like I do all the adjusting
16. Do you think he is selfish?

Yes, sometimes I feel like he only cares about what he wants.
No, he is thoughtful and considerate most of the time
Rarely I do, but there have been a few instances I felt that way.
Yes, I feel that way all the time.
17. When he talks about the future, does he include you in his plans?

Yes, but he talks about the future in broad terms without specifics
He will talk about his future, but he doesn’t mention what role I play in it
He doesn’t even tell me his plans for the future
Yes, we both have plans for the future, but it is still early in our relationship
18. How would you describe your closeness and intimacy on an emotional level?

When we talk about our feelings, I have to ask him to open up
He shares a lot about his life with me
He opens up, but sometimes it feels like he is holding back
He doesn’t share much, and I feel emotionally disconnected
19. Would you say he is affectionate and makes you feel special?

Yes, he is always affectionate and makes me feel special
He is affectionate when we are together, but doesn’t always go out of his way to make me feel special
He is affectionate only in the bedroom and distant outside of it
He is affectionate when we are together but doesn't always go out of his way to make me feel special
20. Does it ever seem like he doesn’t even care how you feel?

No, he is very attentive to my feelings
Not really, but sometimes it seems like he is distant towards my feelings
I feel unsure, but sometimes I get the sense he doesn’t care
I feel like he is completely indifferent to how I feel
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