What’s Your Emotional Attachment Style Quiz

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10 Questions | Updated: Sep 16, 2025

1. When someone you care about doesn’t reply to your message right away, how do you usually feel?


Relaxed, they’ll get back to me when they can
A bit worried; they might be upset with me
Indifferent; I’ll just focus on something else
Torn between wanting closeness and fearing rejection
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What’s Your Emotional Attachment Style Quiz
Our early experiences and the way we form bonds with caregivers shape how we connect to others in adulthood. This is known as our emotional attachment style, and it influences how we handle intimacy, respond to conflict, seek reassurance, and express... see more
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2. What first name or nickname would you like us to use?

You may optionally provide this to personalise your insights.

3. How comfortable are you with depending on others for emotional support?


Very comfortable, I trust my loved ones
I rely on them a lot and need reassurance
I prefer handling things on my own
I crave support but fear being let down

4. When conflict arises in a relationship, what’s your first instinct?


Communicate openly and work through it
Worry about losing the person and try to fix things quickly
Withdraw or avoid the conflict entirely
Feel overwhelmed; want closeness but also feel like pulling away

5. How do you typically show affection?


Naturally and consistently
With intensity, often needing reassurance back
In limited ways, keeping some distance
With mixed signals, sometimes warm, sometimes withdrawn

6. How do you react if your partner asks for more space?


I respect their need and stay supportive
I feel anxious and fear they may leave me
I welcome it; I value independence
I feel conflicted; wanting closeness but also scared of being smothered

7. What best describes your view of yourself in relationships?


I feel worthy of love and trust others
I often worry I’m not enough
I see myself as self-sufficient and don’t need much from others
I struggle with both self-doubt and mistrust

8. When someone gets emotionally close to you, how do you feel?


Comfortable, intimacy feels natural
Nervous but eager to keep them close
Uncomfortable, I prefer keeping distance
Conflicted; wanting closeness but fearing vulnerability

9. How often do you seek reassurance in your relationships?


Occasionally, when it’s natural
Frequently, I need constant validation
Rarely, I don’t feel the need for it
Often, but I hesitate to ask directly

10. How do you handle breakups or rejection?


With resilience; I process and move forward
With difficulty; I feel devastated and cling to hope
By shutting down emotionally and detaching
With confusion; I feel both desperate for closeness and afraid of it

11. Which statement resonates most with you?


I can rely on myself and others equally
I need a lot of reassurance to feel secure
I prefer not to rely on anyone but myself
I long for closeness but worry I’ll get hurt
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