Love Like the Movies: Wedding Advice From Film Favorites
“She is the only evidence of God I have seen with the exception of the mysterious force that removes one sock from the dryer every time I do my laundry.” —St. Elmo’s Fire
A theme commonly scene in movies containing some sort of romantic partnership is the kind of love a man has for a woman. In this particular film, the character used humor to compare the kind of miracle the woman he loved seemed to be. In the same way, the love you have for your spouse should feel just as mysterious and miraculous as the day you fell in love. Many couples can think of characteristics about their spouse that out-do anyone else with whom they have ever been romantically partnered. Never lose sight of what makes your spouse “better than the rest.”
“Since the invention of the kiss, there have been only five kisses that were rated the most passionate, the most pure. This one left them all behind.” —The Princess Bride
Just as Wesley loved Buttercup, a love that engages constantly in passionate and loving embraces is healthy and full of life. Never stop passionately kissing – and start doing it now if you’ve never had the experience. Kissing allows for you to be as close as possible to the person you love, and does not always necessarily have to be done in the privacy of your own home. In fact, choosing an appropriate time and place in public for a romantic kiss can bring the two of you even closer to one another.
“Look, in my opinion, the best thing you can do is find a person who loves you for exactly what you are. Good mood, bad mood, ugly, pretty, handsome, what have you. The right person is still going to think the sun shines out of your ass. That’s the kind of person that’s worth sticking with.” —Juno
Never ask your spouse to be anything they are not. You chose the individual because of who they were at the time, knowing that they would continue to grow and change even within the relationship. The right person will always be the right person if you allow them to be. Sticking with someone through thick and through thin, through the good and the bad, for better or for worse, is worth it when they are the one person who loves and understands you as you really are.
“Yes, I’m drunk. And you’re beautiful. And tomorrow morning, I’ll be sober but you’ll still be beautiful.” —The Dreamers
Your words should always ring true when talking with your spouse. Whether you are drunk or sober or angry or full of love and appreciation, allow your words to always be truthful and respectful and honest. Sometimes you will have to choose your words wisely, but never lie or keep anything from your spouse. And as often as possible, compliment your lover in every way you can imagine.
“We need a witness to our lives. There’s a billion people on the planet… I mean, what does any one life mean? But, in a marriage, you’re promising to care about everything. The good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things… all of it, all the time, every day.” —Shall We Dance
Everyday life can become routine in a marriage, and it can become difficult to make everyday unique. The wonderful thing about marriage is that you have someone with whom to share even the most mundane of tasks. As the quote says, all of the good, bad, terrible, and mundane things you experience in your life will be shared with your spouse every day. There will never be a day when you cannot count on that person to be by your side.
“Do you ever put your arms out and just spin and spin and spin? Well, that’s what love is like. Everything inside of you tells you to stop before you fall, but you just keep going.” —Practical Magic
Let love be magical. Let the romance and intimacy you experience with your partner be like spinning in a circle. You may become dizzy, feel overwhelmed, and maybe warned by others to stop before you fall. But let love carry you and spend forever feeling as if you are head over heels each and every day. It will not always be perfect, but let love be its own story.
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