7 Ways to Involve Your Groom in Planning a Wedding
It seems traditional for a bride to plan everything for your special day but planning a wedding involves a lot of work and stress, and there is no real reason why you should do it alone. Keeping your groom involved with wedding planning is no child’s play. If you are wondering how to get your groom involved in the planning, you need a plan of action in place.
If your man prefers to stay in the background letting you take charge and plan away just saying “whatever you want” when you ask him about certain aspects of your wedding, you will need to put in some extra effort to get him interested in planning your big day as you do.
Here are a few easy tips on how to involve your future husband into a wedding planning process
1. Acknowledge that your partner should be involved
How involved should the groom be in the wedding planning? Brides that tell their grooms to contribute financially and do nothing but show up on their wedding day are making a big mistake.
The wedding is a celebration for both the bride and groom so it’s vital that you should make major decisions together. Keep in mind that a happy marriage is impossible without teamwork and your wedding is likely to be your first project as a couple so you should work together throughout the planning process to create a day of both your dreams.
Let’s start with involving your groom from the beginning. There are some things your groom has to be involved in like setting the date of your wedding, determining the budget, choosing a venue or making a guest list. Talk to your future husband and tell him what you expect him to do from the very beginning because he might be totally unaware of his responsibilities. Don’t expect that your partner knows about wedding planning as much as you do and be ready to educate him about the fundamentals.
2. Ask questions
Your fiancé may have his vision for the perfect wedding.
Discuss the theme of your wedding before you start planning your budget. Ask your partner a lot of questions, and you will learn a lot about his tastes and preferences.
You should ask his opinion about organizing a wedding and reception and take his ideas seriously. Keep an open mind to his ideas that are outside the traditional wedding box and don’t shut them down. Being receptive to his ideas is one of the surefire ways to get your groom amped about wedding planning.
You should make all your decisions together because planning a wedding is a team effort and your groom’s opinions matter as well as yours. If he has an opinion on something, you should consider it if it is essential for him because it’s your groom’s wedding too.
Include his ideas into the wedding and show that you respect them. By doing so, you will boost his excitement, and he will be more eager to help you. We, men, are unlikely to tell the difference between hydrangeas and lilacs but most of us will be very particular about the food to serve at our wedding events.
If your man feels that his ideas are taken seriously, he will give you more honest suggestions.
4. Play to your groom’s interests
Find out what he is interested in and encourage him to participate in that part. You can simply ask your groom what things he would like to take care of and assign him tasks you think he’ll enjoy. If he loves music, he might be interested in finding a band or creating the wedding playlist. If he is a “foodie,” let him come up with ideas for the menu.
How do you get your groom interested in planning a wedding? Give him the job that fits his strengths.
If your guy is creative, you can ask him to design your wedding invitations. Is your groom a great negotiator? Ask him to negotiate the best price with your vendors.
5. Ask for his help
There are plenty of tedious or difficult wedding planning tasks, and you don’t have to cope with them alone just because you want your groom to enjoy planning. Let him know about them and ask for help and support when you are tired. When he sees that you are stressed, he is sure to be willing to offer you his assistance. A good way to involve your groom is to create a task list and schedule and do these tedious tasks together, or you can delegate some of your essential responsibilities to your family members.
6. Let him manage the wedding budget
That’s the most masculine task, and it is perfect for any man even if he is not an accountant or a banker. We just like to be in charge of the money. Besides, you can ask him to help out with the logistics and planning of the honeymoon.
7. Put your relationship first
Don’t let wedding planning take over your lives.
You need a balance because life still goes on. Try to limit the amount of time you talk about planning your future wedding. You should make your relationship a priority and just keep dating your partner. Watch movies and favorite TV shows together, go for a walk, relax, keep things fun, and enjoy the experience.
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