Living with someone is something to be expected when two individuals tie the knot. Yet, sometimes, these two don’t necessarily go hand in hand. Discussing the advantages and the disadvantages of living together as a married couple or as simple life partners is a topic that many couples are troubled with. Whether one of the two choices presents a solution to most difficulties a couple is confronted with along the way remains to be seen.
Reviewing live in relationships
Living together without being legally wed can be reassuring in regards to independence and, even, commitment. While most people find this less romantic and comforting than actually being married to their partners, it does prove a solid argument when it comes to how people perceive constraints.
From one perspective, two individuals that decide that they want to share their life together and who move in under the same roof might do it impulsively at first, but not so much in the long run. Many couples have broken up after actually living together. Although that might seem easy to do or rather frivolous in terms of commitment, but for those that decide to persevere and remain together without any legal ties the opposite is being proved. Rarely does an unmarried couple have fears such as having to divide assets, a change in marital status and the manner in which this would affect their image, be it from a personal or professional perspective. In contrast, married couples often find themselves in loveless and unhappy relationships due to these reasons. In a way, someone who willingly commits to living with you proves more in regard to dedication and interest than someone who does so because of a paper they signed at town hall. Yet, this is rarely observed or valued and most people suffer from insecurity when in a long term relationship without being married to their partners.
Besides personal interests or preference, there is an issue which is believed to bring grave negative psychological consequences to children born outside of marriage. While it might not be a big matter for the parents, the child might suffer unnecessarily depending on the country and culture he is born in. The topic of having and raising a child outside matrimony remains a taboo in many parts of the world. Society’s view on the matter gravely influences how other people perceive and act to this. Even in states which promote freedom on a high scale, you can still find cases of children and teenagers being bullied for being born “out of wedlock”.
So, the problem remains: Would it be advantageous for somebody to remain unmarried and still have children?
The answer should be “undoubtedly yes”, yet it might not be so depending on the place where you live!
“Voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and a person who is not his or her spouse” – that’s the definition of adultery. But what do you call the act of betraying your partner when you are not legally married? Is there anything to be done about it from a legal perspective? What are the measures to be taken in such a case? Well, this is something that largely depends on principle and prejudice when one is not married to his or her life partner. If it is better or worse to rely on morality instead of legislation, it strictly hinges on one’s point of view and on circumstances.
When somebody decides to part ways with their spouse due to adultery on their partner’s side it is quite reassuring to have the state on your side. Little compensation as that might be, it is compensation nonetheless. But nowadays prenuptial contracts are no longer viewed as the act of cynical and loveless marriages, so even adultery no longer has the repercussions it used to have – of course, legally, not sentimentally speaking. So, in the end, the advantages one might have in a situation such as this do not always outweigh those of an unmarried couple. Nevertheless, the saying “It’s better safe, than sorry.” remains the unanimous principle after which many still guide their relations.
Conflicting as it might be to decide on one course of action, the ground on which this decision should be made relies on what you want and how you want to achieve it. Before making a rash decision regarding this, discuss with your partner about:
What are the reasons for wanting to move in together or marry?
- What are your expectations regarding our moving in together/marrying?
- What are your future goals and how do you plan on achieving them?
- What will you do if this all goes wrong?
Once you establish this it will be easier to decide whether marriage or a live-in relationship is truly what fits you best.