Let’s be friends! We’ve all heard it before. Think back, do you remember hearing these words over and over and not knowing what to do and feeling frustrated, mad, and going through a hard time accepting it. He wanted to be your friend, but for some reason, you twisted and turned it and did everything you could to try to convince him that being friends was not what you wanted and that you wanted a relationship.
We are often caught between what we wanted and the reality
After years of trying to convince him, you finally decided it was time to give up and walk away, but yet it took you a long time to let go.Unfortunately, there are many women who have gone through this, wanting and desiring to be with someone who doesn’t want a relationship, and only want to be friends.
So, what’s so bad about being friends?
Friendship is the first thing you need and very important when it comes to developing a relationship. Being friends gives you the opportunity to get to know the person for who he is and gives you the opportunity to learn things about him that you would not have learned otherwise. When you jump into a relationship without being friends first, all types of issues and challenges occur, and you begin to expect more from the person and sometimes set unrealistic expectations.
Why put so much pressure on someone because of your own expectations and desires? When you develop a genuine friendship, there are no expectations, you can be yourself, he can be himself, and you can learn everything you want to know about each other. You don’t have to worry about pretending to be someone you’re not, he can relax in knowing that he can be himself and not worry about if you’re going to ask about a relationship. Basically, you put the ball in his hands and you give him the opportunity to lead.
You can date other people
When it comes to friendship, there are no strings attached and you are free to date and see other people if you like, because you’re not tied to him, you’re not obligated to him, and you don’t owe him any explanations for the decisions you make.
When you hear the words, let’s be friends, take it in your stride, and give him just that, give him friendship without expecting it to blossom to a relationship. You may find that being friends is for the best, and that you don’t want to be in a relationship with him. It’s better to find out during the friendship phase only that you don’t want a relationship, instead of finding out later, when you have connected emotionally to him.
So, the next time he says, let’s be friends, say okay and remember this is an opportunity for you to get to know him without being emotionally tied. It’s not the end of the world to be friends, though it’s not what you want or expect, there’s nothing wrong with being his friend and accepting that’s what he wants. Many times, being friends is the best option, although it sucks, and you feel horrible, being friends is not so bad. Here are 12 reasons why accepting let’s be friends, is the best thing that could happen to you, because-
1.You get to know the real him and not who he pretends to be
2.You can be yourself
3.You don’t have to be accountable
4.You can date and get to know other people if you want
5.You can decide if being friends is better than being in a relationship with him
6.You don’t have to be under pressure to be yourself or be someone else
7.You don’t have to convince him to like you
8.You don’t have to convince him that you are the “One”
9.You don’t have to talk about entering a relationship with him
10.You don’t have to answer his calls or texts everytime, if you really can’t or want
11.You don’t have to obliged to communicate with him everyday
12.You don’t have to convince him that you’re a good person
Being friends gives you the opportunity to be free, free to be who you are, and free to choose to be in a relationship with him or not.
Hopefully after reading this, you will realize that “Let’s Be Friends” is not such a bad statement, after all.
VERIFIED EXPERTMore by Dr. LaWanda N. Evans
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