Expert Tips for Managing Adhd and Turning It on Its Head
ByShane Bruce, Marriage & Family TherapistMarriage & Family Therapist
Updated: 20 Feb, 2020
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The importance of a clear understanding of ADHD and diagnosis of ADHD can not be underlined enough.
However, if ADHD were to knock on your door, (text, tweet, instagram, snapchat, facebook message, text you, email you), what do you suppose it might have to say? Do you think there might be a hidden message in distraction?
Could there be a lesson tucked away in that impulsive outburst? Perhaps the experience of difficulty sitting still is trying to tell us something. Managing ADHD is no easy feat.
ADHD came onto the scene at the same time as the Industrial Revolution, over a hundred years ago.
It seems to be embedded in the modern psyche, like electricity and the combustion engine. Modern life has accelerated at an exponential rate, leaving a staggering wake of information all competing for our attention.
What if the ADHD Symptoms were a sort of built-in alarm, issuing a warning about the debilitating effects of the fast-paced, multi-tasking lifestyle that is now expected of us all in the postmodern world?
This gives the person with ADHD a chance to step out of the constant cycle of blaming themselves for what they’ve done wrong, and feeling ashamed for it. Subsequently, it makes managing ADHD relatively easier.
The time audit values driven motivation
How you spend your time tells us a lot about who you are. Time audit can be an effect tool when looking for solutions for ADHD management.
Use your daily calendar to record what you do. Then divide your activities into three (3) categories:
(If you are in school, anything academic can be considered “business.”) So many people with ADHD complain of “lost time.” This will help you to find it.
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Shane Bruce is a CA Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT#50773) who specialized in working with Youth and Families with ADHD. He also specializes in working with individual adults with Anxiety and Depression, as well as couples.He served for 15 years in community mental health where he worked with youth and families. He served as a clinical supervisor for Aviva Family & Children Services, and has served as Adjunct Faculty for Pacifica Graduate Institute's MFT track, and Mount St. Mary's graduate program in counseling psychology. He is author of the book,ADHD: A Heartful Approach.He is a public and motivational speaker and presented on Family Systemsat the 2018 International Conference on ADHD in St. Louis, Missouri.