No excuses—there are many opportunities where you can add your special way of expressing your love for your spouse during this time in your love calendar.
Remember that coupon you might have used for Valentine’s Day? You can tweak it for any of the occasions.
A kind note of appreciation can make a family celebration more romantic and special. For example, you can write a letter to your spouse about what a wonderful parent and partner they are in your life.
Think about ways to include the family and/or children. Also, see the June suggestions for ideas that you can also use for this month.
Fathers Day! Sometimes College Graduation Day! Sometimes Anniversary Day! First Day of Summer! Whew again!
Do one of your unused ideas that you considered for May. Often, for example, doing one of those overlooked and forgotten household tasks goes a long way to express your love. Involve the family, for example, in cleaning out the garage or closets!
Aggravating tasks are usually more fun when you have a crew.
Fourth of July! Oh this month in the yearly love calendar for couples is easy: Celebrate you two!
If your anniversary is months away, have an “interim” anniversary celebration to let your spouse know your feelings of joy and gratitude.
There is no law that says that you can’t create your own holiday! Have fun together and with the family.
Back to school time?
Time to return from vacation?
Oh, August too often is not a happy month: Bad weather somewhere, kids to get ready, and packing up time. Instead of getting stressed out, do dreaded tasks together.
Divide up the smaller tasks.
When couples work together even on unpleasant things they can feel closer.
Don’t turn into a perfectionist or drill sergeant.
Just get things done—and then thank each other. You might even want to prepare a thank you card earlier. And always assign tasks to your children.
Afterward, find a way to celebrate being a couple and family. Order in, barbecue, watch a movie together, play a game, and just do something that refreshes your closeness.
Labor Day! First day of Autumn. Religious holidays for others.
Just celebrate life when September comes up in your love calendar!
Look at your community’s calendar for fun things to do with family and with just your spouse. September is also often a month of new beginnings for school children.
Instead of your usual way of dividing up your childcare tasks, do at least one of them together.
Co-parenting can be frustrating, but it is less so when you are a team. And then write a thank you note to your spouse about how wonderful they are!
Halloween! Columbus Day! What?? How do you celebrate Columbus Day? Well, Columbus was an explorer.
Think about how your spouse helped you explore and discover yourself in ways that helped you grow.
And, yes, write that note of appreciation. Explain what you’ve discovered about you, life, and love. And Halloween?
Now is the time to be silly. Dress up—or at least wear a silly hat—when you answer the door or attend your child’s school celebration. If available in your area, go on a hayride. Some communities offer pre-arranged ones or rentals. Just have fun! And be appreciative of autumn beauty. Go for drives to look at the leaves changing. Carve pumpkins together. Go apple-picking. Just thrive!
Veterans Day! Thanksgiving!
These are both holidays in your love calendar where you can give thanks.
Watch the Veterans Day parade in your town, if you have one.
Or, arrange ahead of time for your whole family to volunteer at your local food bank. Or, work in the food kitchen and help serve the food to the less fortunate.
Remember, doing charitable deeds together brings you all closer, and makes you more appreciative, kinder, and more humble and loving. You could create a Thanksgiving ritual of going through the pantry and giving or volunteering together.
Christmas! Other religious celebrations! New Year’s Eve! First Day of Winter!
Read again the charitable tips I mentioned for November.
In your love calendar, repeat tasks for December. Be sure to sort through your and your children’s closets again for things to donate to organizations such as Goodwill or Salvation Army. And have fun on the first day of good-fun snow!
As you can see by now, there are similar loving suggestions threaded throughout each month. It seems that we busy humans need many reminders of the importance of expressing appreciation in different ways to our spouse, children, family, and community.
No act is too small. And all acts bring you closer and make you more loving.
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