Things to Keep in Mind Before Reuniting with First Love

“First love always occupies a special place.”

Lee Konitz

Indeed, there is no love like first love. It always has a special place in your heart and you compare all the people who get into a relationship with, with your first love. You may move on, get married or even bury our lovely past after the separation, the spark and the emotional feeling for the first love still exists somewhere in the heart.

What if you get a chance to reunite with your first love?

There are very few who get a chance to reunite with first love of their life. Your first love was the first one to peep into your heart and know you when you were raw. It is quite rare for you to cross paths with them again, out of fate, and both of you are still willing to reunite.

This may sound just a Disney Romantic movie, but is it actually the right thing to do? Let’s find out!

You both are different people now

Yes! they may have given you something good to remember them by but they also gave you your first heartbreak. It doesn’t matter after how many years you’re meeting them, but you’re not the person they knew back then. Reality and life have taken over you and have transformed you over the years. Things change, and you’ve evolved with time.

When you think of reuniting with first love, you must consider this fact and take steps wisely. You two are different individuals who used to know each other. You both may have different aspirations and dreams in life now.

The present is way different than the past. So before reuniting, think properly.

Don’t forget the reason for the breakup

No one looks forward to their first breakup, but things never go as planned. So, whilst you’re thinking of all the beautiful and memorable time you’ve spent together, also remember the reason for the breakup.

It’s necessary that you analyze the reunion properly and make sure that this time you both are willing to grow old together.

Things might get a little emotional and romantic and you may experience the spark, yet again, but take calculative steps. You don’t want to get hurt this time, right?

Spend quality time as friends

Don’t rush into things. Just because your first love is back in your life or wishes to reunite with you for something good, don’t make stupid decisions and rush into things. Spend some quality time as friends. Meet and observe the person.

See if there is actually some spark or it’s just the excitement to the idea of reuniting with first love that is driving you crazy.

The more you would spend the more you would understand if this is worth a shot. You both, as mentioned above, are two different individuals now. You both have evolved and become mature. So, just getting back with a hope of finding the same person as years ago won’t help you in the future.

Do you see some future with your first love?

Indeed! It’s important to consider. If you both are thinking about reuniting you must have a pleasant foreseeable future. It’s not another ‘fling’ that you both are looking for, is it? If so, that’s a bad idea. Just a fling may take you back to some good times you have spent with your first love and will emotionally torture you.

So, sit together and discuss your future with each other. See if you both fit into each other’s personal goals or future aspirations. If not, just say good-bye with some sweet memory.

If you’ve decided to get back, make sure you both are committed to make it work.

Often people get excited when they see their first love. They’re so engrossed into the idea of reuniting with a first love that they ignore a lot of things, like are you both equally excited about the reunion? We would say people are extremely lucky to get back with their first love. It doesn’t happen often. If it is happening to you, take a back seat and analyze everything properly.

If you’re getting back with your first love, make sure you both are on the same page. You both agree to make it work this time, no matter what. You have to safeguard yourself emotionally hence be sure of their intentions. Don’t take any heist decision out of excitement. It may not lead you to a happy ending.

Reuniting with a first love is an amazing experience that most people wish for, however only a few get lucky. If you’re amongst those few lucky people who are getting a chance to be with your first love again, please consider these above-mentioned suggestions. It might not always be a good and legit idea to reconsider the proposal and move forward with the decision. Only if you’re sure that things won’t be bad this time, go ahead.