How Do Men Get Over a Breakup?

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Updated: 18 May, 2023

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Breakups trigger retreat as men seek space and self-care, so invite open, nonjudgmental conversations that help you both feel seen and connected again.
Healthy boundaries support healing by giving each other time to reflect, which paves the way for honest sharing and deeper trust when you reconnect.
Vulnerability strengthens closeness as you listen with care and express appreciation, turning separate journeys into a shared path forward.

We know when a girl goes through a breakup, she rants it out to her friends, cry and go through an emotional phase, hit rock bottom and reemerge as a new person.

There are various ways a woman expresses herself after a breakup. However, the main question is, how do men get over a breakup?

Men are known to be less emotional and always pretend to be strong. In movies they’re surely shown crying and getting emotional after a breakup, but in real life, guys after a breakup behave differently. Listed below are some prominent points to how do guys feel after a breakup and what they do to overcome it.

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Do things they were told not to be when in a relationship

When in a relationship, guys are told not to do a lot of things, and this truth is universally known.

How to guys deal with breakups?

They do all the things they were told not to do.

They would go out on a solo trip or with friends, spend most of the time with their friends, play Xbox and catch up with all the missed out matches. In short, they would do all those things they weren’t able to do when in a relationship.

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Get drunk and behave insanely

As said above, men pretend to be strong and mostly hide their emotions. The only way they can bring those emotions out of their heart is by getting drunk.

That’s why you would often spot a man down with alcohol at a bar crying and talking about their ex. Don’t worry, it’s this is common behavior of men after breakup.

Pay extra attention to their house

Guys behavior after breakup alters and they start doing things that are least expected from them. For instance, when in a relationship women would expect them to pay attention to the household things, but they would neglect.

How do men get over a breakup?

They start nesting. They would stock their pantry with groceries, buy indoor plants or would hang a beautiful painting on their wall. Male psychology after a breakup is confusing at times, which often confuses women and they think men are unemotional and insensitive.

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Watch porn and find solace in that

Watching porn is not at all bad, unless it turns into an addiction. Men watch porn, and it’s a fact. However, when in a relationship men stop watching or reduce it a great extent and concentrate on their girl.

Things return back to normal when they go through a breakup. How do men get over a breakup? By watching porn. So, if your male friend is watching porn, probably he’s trying to get over the breakup.

Cut all contacts and avoid their ex

How do men get over a breakup? They cut all contacts with their girlfriends and avoid them as much as possible.

This isn’t because they suddenly turn into a rock and lose all emotions, it’s because if they continue to have contact with their girlfriend, they will flow back into the emotional journey they had making it difficult for them to get over. So, the best possible way to avoid any such breakdowns is avoidance.

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Acting like a jerk

Men at times act like a jerk because their girlfriend has crushed their heart badly.

How do guys handle breakups? Well, the more they love you and had emotions for you, the more they will act like a jerk. By acting like a jerk, they’re trying to deal with the mixed up emotion turmoil that’s going on inside them.

One-night stand

Wondering how do men get over a breakup? Well, they sleep around and opt for one-night stand. When girls go through breakup, they groom themselves and show that they’re over their boyfriend.

Likewise, when men go through breakup, they go on one night stand mode. This is their way of showing that they’re over their girlfriend.

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Pay a lot of attention to themselves

What do guys think after a break up? Well, they introspect and realize that it probably wasn’t their fault. In the quest to get over the past relationship, they decide to pay some attention to themselves.

They join gym and enjoy the time there with their friends. They also spend some time in themselves and buy some great clothes.

Consoling themselves through various things

Like girls need consoling, men also do. Girls may expect their friends to console them whereas men do it themselves. They will start saying that they never liked the girl. They will start pointing out the flaws in the girl just to console them that break up was the right thing to do.

When you hear a man talking negative about the girlfriend, understand that they’ve made it a point to walk out of the relationship, or are trying to console them that they did the right thing.

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