When you’re in the bedroom, do you and your partner:

Enjoy bondage, sadism/masochism, and dominate/submissive play

Enjoy a specific fetish, such as latex

Outside of the bedroom, do you and your partner:

Like to tease each other about who’s in charge

Play around with each other’s sexual interests

If you and your partner were to experiment with rope-play, would you:

Find it interesting, but it’s not really your thing

If you and your partner were to have traditional, vanilla sex, would you:

Feel bored and not able to be turned on

Feel okay, but not really into it

Feel completely comfortable and extremely sexy

If you and your partner were to experiment with a specific fetish, would you:

Find it okay, but not exactly your thing

Love it and feel totally engaged

Hate it and be extra turned off

Your partner confesses to you they want to spice things up in the bedroom. Do you:

Suggest submissive/dominant roles

Suggest bringing outside items into the bedroom

Suggest a new position you haven’t tried yet

A friend comes to you and tells you they discovered a fun new erotica shop. You and your partner:

Go to explore it right away, searching for new toys

Look into it, on the hunt for unique items to bring into play

Ignore the suggestion as you’re satisfied with what you already have

On average, you and your partner have sex:

Whenever you get around to it (which isn’t often)

You and your partner mostly enjoy:

Discovering new ways to tie each other up

Finding out about new items to use on each other

Just your bodies in the bedroom during sex

When you and your partner have sex, do you find yourself:

Wondering about the way specific items might increase your arousal

Completely satisfied with where you’re at

What Kind of Sexual Fantasy Do I Have?

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10 Questions | Total Attempts: 173 | Updated: Feb 24, 2022

Lots of couples share sexual fantasies. It is a part of a healthy sexual relationship. But there could be a difference in the kind of fantasy you have from that of your partner’s. Unless you both understand each other’s sexual language, it will be difficult to build intimacy in the relationship. What kind of fantasies do you and your partner share? Take this Sex Fantasy quiz with your partner to find out. And remember, honesty is the best policy!