1. Do you have conversations in your head about your spouse/partner?
2. Do you feel compelled to inform someone of what your partner did?
3. Do your partner’s words and deeds around you cause you to experience intense unpleasant emotions?
4. Do you recall the specifics of what they said months or years ago?
5. Do you keep a record of your partner's list of offenses?
6. What would be the main reason if this marriage/relationship ended someday?
7. Are you shaming yourself for having the thoughts about your partner/relationship?
8. Have you ever tried to change your expectations of your partner/spouse?
9. Do you have an unstoppable belief that your relationship/marriage will constantly harm or hurt you?
10. Do you think your partner is the main reason for your bitterness? In the other words, could it be due to some other reason or person?