Is Your Inner Child Leading Your Love Life Quiz

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10 Questions | Updated: Aug 06, 2025
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Is Your Inner Child Leading Your Love Life Quiz

Every relationship we build as adults is subtly influenced by the emotional blueprint formed in our childhood. That inner child—the part of you that once felt joy, fear, abandonment, or love—can silently shape how you connect, react, and feel in your romantic life.

When the inner child is driving your love life, you may find yourself seeking comfort, security, or validation in ways that feel intense, confusing, or even self-sabotaging. But when your adult self takes the lead, relationships feel more balanced, communicative, and empowering.

This quiz will help you explore whether your inner child is shaping your romantic choices and emotional responses, or whether you're building love from a place of self-awareness and healing. Answer honestly to uncover what truly drives your heart.

Questions Excerpt

1. When you feel hurt in a relationship, how do you usually react?

A. I withdraw completely and wait for them to notice

B. I feel overwhelmed and need immediate reassurance

C. I process it and communicate when I’m ready

2. How do you handle criticism from your partner?

A. I take it very personally and feel attacked

B. I get emotional and need to defend myself

C. I try to understand their point and respond constructively

3. Which statement best describes your need for affection?

A. I often crave constant affection and reassurance

B. I feel unloved if I don’t get it the way I want

C. I enjoy affection, but I understand different people express it differently

4. What’s your biggest fear in a relationship?

A. Being abandoned or left out

B. Being misunderstood or not appreciated

C. Growing apart without noticing

5. How do you act when you're not getting what you want from your partner?

A. I sulk or become passive-aggressive

B. I express my frustration dramatically

C. I reflect and talk about it calmly

6. Do you find yourself repeating old relationship patterns?

A. Yes, and they often resemble my childhood experiences

B. Sometimes, but I can’t figure out why

C. Rarely—I try to break those patterns consciously

7. What kind of partner are you most drawn to?

A. Someone who feels familiar, even if they’re not good for me

B. Someone who gives me attention and reassurance constantly

C. Someone who is emotionally balanced and communicative

8. When conflict arises, what’s your initial instinct?

A. Shut down and hope it goes away

B. Get emotional or defensive

C. Try to resolve it together

9. How much do you depend on your partner for emotional stability?

A. A lot—I often feel incomplete without them

B. It varies, but I prefer they meet most of my emotional needs

C. I appreciate their support, but I also self-regulate

10. Do you believe love should "heal" your emotional wounds?

A. Yes, I expect my partner to help me feel whole

B. Maybe, I’m not sure but it feels comforting to think so

C. Not entirely—I believe love supports, but healing is my responsibility too


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