A victim is someone who constantly blames others when things go wrong. They are the first to show emotional dysregulation. In other words, they always “play the victim” in the relationship. Have you noticed some red flags lately, and you’re wondering if you are in a relationship with a victim? Take this 'Am I in a Relationship With a Victim' quiz to find out.
1. Does your partner constantly talk about how badly their ex treated them?
A. Yes, all the time
B. Yes, sometimes
C. No, almost never
2. Does your partner own up to their mistakes?
A. Yes, almost always
B. Yes, sometimes
C. No, never
3. Does your partner find other people (including you) to blame for their issues?
A. Yes
B. Not sure
C. No
4. Do they get upset over minor issues in the relationship?
A. Yes, they get very upset
B. Yes, they get a little upset
C. No, not actually
5. Does your partner make you feel responsible for their unhappiness or discomfort?
A. Yes, all the time
B. Yes, sometimes
C. No, never
6. Do they hold grudges?
A. Yes, they always hold grudges
B. Not sure
C. No, they never hold grudges
7. Do they stop talking to you for long periods when they’re upset?
A. Yes
B. Not sure
C. No
8. Do they try to make amends with people they fight with?
A. Yes
B. Sometimes
C. No
9. Do they always have a problem with something or the other?
A. Yes, always
B. Yes, sometimes
C. No, not actually
10. Are they constantly venting to you without caring about you?
A. Yes
B. Not sure
C. No