Dr. Bel Michele De Mile, LMFT
Marriage & Family Therapist | Claimed

In my view, the three most important predictors of a good relationship are:

During initial hour-long sessions, each person’s view of the issues creating the dissatisfaction in the relationship is assessed. The couple's abilities to communicate (verbalizing and listening) and to clarify expectations, strengths, and needs are all focuses of treatment. I also specialize with couples where one party (or both parties) has ADHD whose cognitive style impacts on the relationship. Specialized systems are devised based on the individuals’ life style. Furthermore, an appreciation of the creativity and contributions that ADHD can have to the relationship is developed.

?I see couples before marriage who want to enhance their communication, greater self-awareness, and deeper emotional understanding of their partner. I help them address issues that include, but are not limited to, money, sex, child rearing, religion, family, friends, and monogamy. By confronting issues before the marriage, and learning new ways to deal with them, they set a tone in their relationship that they are committed to solve anything that may arise. Greater intimacy usually develops and becomes a stronger foundation for their future.