8 Qualities That Attracts and Keeps a Man
Wouldn’t it be nice to be that woman who could attract just about any guy that she wanted? If you’re single then you’re probably aware that men can be choosy when it comes to dating. Just like women, usually men have their idea of a perfect woman in their head that they’re attracted too. Most of the time you either fit their expectations or you don’t. But every now and then, just like women, men fall for women who are outside their comfort zone.
1. Love women who have a life
Men are especially attracted to women that have lives outside of dating men. So the next time you see that the guy you really like is calling you, don’t pick up automatically, and give him a call back in a couple hours. Guys hate being ignored, but they also don’t like a girl who is super clingy. So go get a life, hang out with your girls, and brush him off every now and then. Men love the chase, and they will pursue you even more. They love busy women who have other things going on in their lives, it makes them feel that much more attracted to you.
2. They love mystery
When you’re on a first date , do you ever find yourself sharing everything about your life with him? If so, you may want to restrain yourself. This kind of behavior can cause him to run away. Men like women who keep a bit of a wall up. They never know what’s on their mind, and they have to work really hard to get some of that wall to come down. Men want to know what secrets lie in there and they won’t stop until they succeed in finding out. Instead of oversharing, give him information in bits and pieces.
Men love women who are confident in their own skin. These women know their goals in life and are unwilling to wait around for men and delay their dreams to come true. They’re aware of their weaknesses and are willing to work on them. They are also proud of their strengths. This allows women to be confident not only with their lives but also their relationships. They don’t like to waste time playing games, which is a quality that men find irresistible.
4. One who takes care of herself
This is one thing that arguably matters most to men. It’s not about spending hours in front of the mirror covering our faces with a pound of makeup. Nor about being the skinniest girl in the room. It’s about taking care of our skin, hair, and keeping our mind and body healthy. Loving ourselves enough to take care of ourselves, whether there’s a man in our lives or not, is crucial. Men aren’t as quick to judge women, sometimes we(as women) are our own worst critics.
5. Doesn’t dwell in the past
Everyone has a past and it is a part of what makes us who we are. But there is a reason why you leave the past in the past. There’s a mental limit to which a man can bare to listen to a woman rant about their past lovers, emotional abusive exes, or overbearing parents.
A man is attracted to a woman who acknowledges her past but doesn’t dwell on their mistakes, disappointments, and negative experiences their exes. Women that dwell in the past tend to look for similarities in their current relationship and compare it to their past relationships. So stop dwelling in the past and focus on the now. Men dislike being compared to exes just as much as we don’t like getting compared to their exes.
6. Is attentive
Do you know who won the last basketball game? If you don’t, then chances are your man does. You need to pay attention and also take interest is his hobbies from time to time. You’re not going to share every interest or hobby as your man. You might even get bored or annoyed hearing about them, but there’s a big chance that he probably doesn’t want to hear about the Sex and the City movie either. After awhile, your man is going to feel rejected by your lack of interest and start feeling neglected. And who could blame him? You wouldn’t like him to do that to you.
It’s a simple fix. Start asking questions and paying attention to his interests. When you do this, your man will feel that connection with you and start returning the favor. For instance, noticing that new haircut or asking about how your girls night out went.
7. Doesn’t expect perfection
Forget prince charming ladies! If you haven’t figured it out already there is no such thing! That’s like your man comparing you to a princess that has rollers in her hair and wears a green mask on her face to bed every night. Yet so many women try to mold their man into their idea of the “perfect man”. What these women need to remember is that people only change when they want to.
They also need to understand that our differences is what makes us who we are. When you fall in love with your man, you fall in love with all his strengths and his weaknesses. You accepted your differences in the beginning so why wouldn’t you accept them now. A man can’t stand a woman who wants to change who he is. So be thankful for all effort he puts in whether they’re big or small.
Men don’t like reading minds or playing games. So the best thing a woman can do is be honest with her man. Men don’t like it when women say one thing and mean another. They would prefer us to admit to what we’re angry about than having to play the dreaded guessing game. Also for us to point out what we want and what we don’t want. Men and women are terrible at guessing from each other’s points of view and this is how many miscommunications arise. There’s nothing that will hurt or break a relationship quicker than constant miscommunication. So quit trying to make your man struggle to play psychic and just be honest with him.
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