The Girl You Date and the Girl You Marry – Spot the Difference!
Dating and marriage are two very different things. You might not think a lot before deciding to date someone, but when it comes to marriage, things are very different. Marriage is a life-long commitment; it is not something you can break up from over a text message or a phone call. If you look back on your dating journey, you will realize that most of the girls are not the ones you would want to make your wife because like it or not the difference between the girl you date, and the one you marry is there. Let’s find out what those differences are!
The girl you date wants you all to herself
She is not really interested in meeting your family or your friends but just wants you to spend all your time with her. She doesn’t believe in the idea of giving space, and you tend to feel she is everywhere you go.
The girl you want to marry doesn’t cage you
She is always happy to let you go with your boys as long as you are giving her sometime as well. She does not want to suffocate you with her presence because she knows that you are here to stay so; there is no need to cage you.
The girl you date is super conscious of herself
She wants to look like a diva, a model straight out of Vogue. She wants to encapsulate you with her outer beauty, and she thinks that a deep neckline dress, dazzling blow dry and those perfectly manicured nails will do the work.
The girl you marry does not care how she looks
It does not matter to her if her hair is out of place or she is wearing her favorite sweatshirt from high school as long as you are by her side. She is lithe and totally herself with you, and that’s what makes you fall in love with her- her inner beauty, not some made up a picture of perfection. She makes you believe in the line imperfection is beauty because you can be yourself with her as well.
The girl you date basically wants you to pay her bills
As harsh, as it may sound it is true. She wants a man to be by her side who can take care of her money issues. Whether it is payment of the new Kate Spade bag she got or the bill of her McDonald’s meal she wants you to take care of it all. Moreover, you are completely head over heels for her and her ‘beauty’ that you don’t even realize how she is using you and your money.
The girl you want to marry looks at every expense carefully
Since she is planning to spend the rest of her life with you, she wants to make sure that neither of you is spending on stuff you don’t need. She is looking at things from a ‘we’ perspective rather than a ‘me’ perspective. We are not saying that she doesn’t want you to surprise her with gifts, no but she wants things to be done in moderation.
She doesn’t mind paying for your meal every now and then and gets you the Nike shoes you were eyeing at the mall the other day. The truth is she isn’t with you because of the money or any other materialistic thing for that matter rather she is with you for your heart and for who you are as a person.
The girl you date wants to change who you are
She wants to mould you into her definition of a perfect man. You slowly realize that one by one everything that made you, you are slipping away and you are transforming into a completely new individual. She wants you to dress the way she likes, eat what she wants to eat even watch movies according to her preference! You tend to feel like a puppet with her complying with everything she says.
The girl you want to marry likes you for who you are
The girl you marry, it is safe to say that she is madly in love with you and doesn’t care about anything else. She likes you for who you are and couldn’t care less about how you dress or what you eat. You feel there is natural chemistry when you are with her because she speaks about what’s on her mind but she also listens when you speak about what’s on yours. There is mutual understanding between the two of you and life just seems easier with her by your side. You don’t have to pretend to be someone with her, someone that would impress her because she is already in love with your heart and that’s what truly matters.
Don’t rush into marriage and wait for the right person
These are basic demarcations between the girl you date and the one you decide to walk down the aisle. Be careful with who you choose as your partner because marriage is not a joke. It isn’t something you do for fun, just to try how things go about but rather it requires an endless amount of love, affection, compromise, and commitment. Don’t rush into marriage, be patient and wait for the right person because trust us when we say this- she is definitely out there. Good luck!
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