You might be wondering, what does my tooth story have to do with the marriage lessons?
Marriage and teeth can have a lot in common but also some key distinctions. Read on to know about the marriage lessons I learned on marriage commitment through my tooth decay!
I’m the type who is reluctant to ask for help (my wife will vouch for this). I usually ask for help once I’ve experienced a minimum of a half-hour of “figuring it out” which involves me grunting, scratching my head, sitting, standing, huffing, puffing, oh my!
After those exercises of futility, I’ll ask her in my sweetest voice for help, she’ll solve the issue in about 10 minutes or less.
Now back to my tooth.
It rotted in my mouth for almost 5 years, the pain was unbearable at times causing me to lose sleep and cause me to complain constantly. Only then did I decide that enough was enough.
I’ve been a knucklehead and rejected the help from others because “I know already”. Just like I tell my kids “that isn’t true because if you knew then you would do”. Asking for help, no matter what the struggle is, can feel unbearable.
No one wants to be judged. No one wants to be humiliated and have something thrown back in their face.
So, I sucked it up and saw the dentist and they yanked that sucker out.
It wasn’t until the tooth was removed that I could see just how bad the cavity was and how much my tooth had decayed.
So often we can’t see our weak spots in our relationships too. Your spouse may not always be able to catch it and call you out on your B.S.
It’s not until you step back and look at it and get an objective 3rd party to give the eagle view of what’s really going on, can any real change happen.
So, when you have run out of your reserve of formulaic strategies to save your failing relationship, it’s best to reach out to a marriage therapist or marriage counselor.
Trust me, marriage counseling can do you a lot good just as the dentist did to my annoying tooth.
There are resources we have to offer to keep your relationship from decaying. That resource is a free 3-day video series, “H.O.W. to Support Your Spouse in 3 Easy Steps.”
This is a chance to step in the right direction and ask for help, to strengthen your commitment, and to seek expert support then this is perfect for you.
Let’s get your marriage out of a painful place and into a state of collaboration, integrity, and productivity. Don’t wait to get your marriage’s “tooth” pulled and see the love and support fade. Give it the care, the attention, and the energy it properly deserves.
If you feel disconnected or frustrated about the state of your marriage but want to avoid separation and/or divorce, the marriage.com course meant for married couples is an excellent resource to help you overcome the most challenging aspects of being married.
Alex Dumas coaches married business owners to create a thriving business by making their relationship the priority. He and his wife, Sarah, operate Abundance Daily together and host The Business and Marriage Podcast.
When they aren’t serving other couples they enjoy time with their kids, their dogs, and their church. Learn more at www.abundancedaily.com.