The more time goes by, the less and less we hear about gay marriages, which I’m happy about.
It’s not that I don’t believe gay people should be able to get married; my annoyance stems from why it’s even an issue in the first place.
Gay or straight, love is love. Marriage is founded in love, so why should we care if two people who have the same sex want to marry each other?
If marriage was as “sacred” as the opposers will claim it is, the divorce rate wouldn’t be as high as it is. Why not let someone else give it a shot?
It’s been a few years now since gay marriage has been legalized in the United States. So many people may have forgotten the uphill battle that the LBGT community took in the years leading up the monumental ruling.
Just with any fight for human rights–African-American, women, etc.–there have been many trials and tribulations that led to marriage equality becoming a law.
It’s important that we don’t forget those struggles, and avoid looking at this issue through a 2017 lens. The battle for same-sex marriage began well before our current circumstances, and that history is one that deserves retelling.
September 21, 1996
Gay marriage is often viewed as a democrat vs. republican issue; generally, democrats are for it while their Republican counterparts aren’t a fan. The reason that this date stuck out to me is because of who was behind it.
Yes, the same Bill Clinton that has been a figurehead of the democratic party in the United States ever since his presidency. I guess a lot has changed in the past 20 years.
States like Hawaii and Vermont attempt to give same-sex couples the same rights as heterosexual couples.
Hawaii’s attempt was appealed shortly after its implementation, and Vermont’s was successful. In neither case did it allow gay marriage, it just gave gay couples the same legal rights as a heterosexual couple.
November 18, 2003
Massachusetts Supreme Court rules that a ban on same-sex marriage is unconstitutional. It’s the first ruling of its kind.
February 12, 2004-March 11, 2004
Going against the law of the land, the city of San Francisco began allowing and performing same-sex weddings.
On March 11, the California Supreme Court ordered San Francisco to stop issuing marriage licenses for same-sex couples.
In the month span that San Francisco was granting marriage licenses and performing gay weddings, over 4,000 people took advantage of this chink in the bureaucratic armor.
February 20, 2004
Seeing the momentum from the movement in San Francisco, Sandoval County, New Mexico issued 26 same-sex marriage licenses. Unfortunately, these licenses were nullified by the day end by the state attorney general.
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