All marriages encounter seasons of significant joy and tumultuous trouble. Indeed, it is downright unrealistic to think that marriage will always be even keel and absent of struggle. That’s why we encourage you to peruse and consider using some of the best Christian marriage books for couples. While these Christian books for married couples do not provide a surefire formula for marital bliss, they do offer partners some tools that can bring resiliency and hope back into a beleaguered union. As added impetus to fulling engaging conversations with your partner, these particular titles utilize self-surveys that stoke insight and “talk avenues.” Looking for a variety of approaches?
Bring several of these titles home and consider adopting some of the high point approaches from each. Best wishes as you begin a season of exploration and opportunity.
Here are some highly-recommended and best-selling Christian books on marriage and relationships:
The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate – Gary Chapman
This wonderful title has become a staple of intervention in the therapeutic setting. It asks the appropriate and wonderful question, “Are you and your partner speaking the same language?” Obviously this is not a commentary on the benefits of Spanish or German fluency. Instead, this tremendously helpful volume looks at quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch as the paramount languages of the committed partnership. Through exercises and conversation, partners determine which languages speak to each prospective partner. Dr. Chapman’s intent with this special books is to equip partners to appreciate and speak the languages of the other. Even we are unable to fully embody the partner’s language, we can graft it to our own.
Fit to be Tied – Bill Hybels and Lynne Hybels
This oldie but goody uses the lens of faith to help couples claim everyday grace and learn how to truly enjoy happiness and time together. Offering practical tips on issues like finding a suitable partner and honing communication, the book is written in an engaging and wise manner. We really appreciate the surveys and rating scales that are offered in this title. By using the included tools, couples have a real opportunity to refine skills and deepen the relationship.
Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life – Henry Cloud
Concise, clear, and honored boundaries are absolutely necessary in a healthy relationship. Unfortunately, boundary issues are often the catalysts of deteriorating relationships and marital duress. The “Boundaries” book helps partners look at the physical, emotional, and spiritual boundaries that delineate one person’s space from another’s. Using thorough research and deft insight, Cloud helps his audience – that’s you – determine how boundary issues are shaping, challenging, and or hampering the relationship. While this particular volume can create a bit of anxiety among partners, the questions it poses are absolutely appropriate.
Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs – Emerson Eggerichs
This tidy and tested volume from Emerson Eggrichs encourages male and female partners to look at how their actions or inaction sully the trajectory of the union. Designed with the backing of substantial research and tremendous field testing, Love & Respect, asks couples the hard questions about anger, aggression, apathy, and assumptions. Working with the premise that partners do not take the time to adequately know and appreciate their partners, Love & Respect encourages the individuals within a coupling to invest in the health and joy of their significant others.
The Hardest Peace: Expecting Grace in the Midst of Life’s Hardships- Kara Tippetts, Joni Eareckson Tada
Written from the perspective of mothering,The Hardest Peace does not offer the audience quick answers for when daily living and routines are hard, but the book does insist that grace can steer us in a new direction even when doubt and despair seem to have the day. Honoring the suffering of so many who have struggled before us, The Hardest Peace looks at practical avenues that place us on the path of relationship recovery and renewed joy. The book also helps the audience cope with the peripheral but important responsibilities of vocation, parenting, and the like. Prayer and Bilblical insight team through this significant contribution.
It is tough out there, friends. When the partnership is jeopardized, it feels like life is jeopardized. What should we do when the relational woes get the best of our living? Ask for help. It is so important to be surrounded by trusting confidants who can help us through the sullied spaces. God makes the healing possible.