There is a seemingly strange, but very powerful notion that not having sex can be a profound emotional intimacy exercise for couples. Now, this might sound crazy to many, after all, what is more, intimate than a sexual encounter? And what about the risk to a marriage when the sexual interactions dry up? If you are somebody who is balking at this notion, you may be just the person who would benefit from emotional intimacy exercises for couples.
There is a vast difference between sex and intimacy and one happens to be the key to long-term relationship success.
Contentedly connected couples
As time passes the infatuation with sexual contact can reduce, as we all know, and it’s at this time, if we are fortunate, that we might adjust easily to the new pace, or we might start to feel as though there might be something missing from the relationship.
If you are finding it easy to adjust to this new pace in your relationship, it may be that you are already practicing (even if you don’t realize it) emotional intimacy exercises with each other. You may have naturally found a way of relating that ensures that you are contentedly connected; which will also make sure that you’ll have a fun, healthy and secure relationship with each other, with low risk of the sexual intimacy drying up.
On the other hand, a couple may not have naturally progressed to the contentedly connected stage. Instead, the lack of sexual intimacy may be causing some anxiety, or a feeling of uncertainty, or of being unfulfilled, unattractive, or unattracted in your relationship. This is because as a couple you may not have naturally developed the emotional intimacy in your relationship. And if you don’t start to create emotional intimacy with each other, then this is a problem that can develop potentially leaving you both feel as though your relationship was not meant to be, even though that could be far from the truth.
Learning how to connect with your partner or spouse emotionally is easy when you practice emotional intimacy exercises for couples. This is how you create a real connection with each other and is the secret to a happy and successful relationship.
What is emotional intimacy?
Emotional intimacy is caring for each other, looking out for each other, connecting with each other, trusting, admiring, appreciating, touching, kissing, communicating, caressing, holding, hugging, being vulnerable and trusting your partner to handle your vulnerability with respect, love, and care. If you have all of this sex becomes part of it too and also becomes extra fulfilling. The growth and connection that you will achieve as a couple, as a result of this connection will be profound.
Emotional intimacy exercises for couples to help you connect:
1. Take an evening stroll for 20 minutes hand in hand
This might sound like such a simple idea, but it’s always the simple things that make the most significant difference. You’ll have the chance to take stock, blow the cobwebs from your psyche and talk, while you remain connected physically via hand holding. This simple practice will keep you tight as a couple and will be fantastic for your health and wellbeing.
2. Give each other a 10-minute massage before bed
This is another simple way to connect, touch and be together without it needing to be forced, or sexual. If you invest in the massage wholeheartedly (even if you are the masseuse) the rewards for such a simple, loving act to your relationship will repay you tenfold.
Oh, how lovely it is to see a couple sitting together in a park, just enjoying the sun and being ‘in the moment’, squashed up on a shared towel. If that isn’t romantic, we don’t know what is. It’s just another simple emotional intimacy exercise for couples that you can do right away.
4. Send a flirty text message to build anticipation
Send a flirty text message to build anticipation, and let your partner know you’re thinking about him or her.
There’s nothing better than anticipating returning home to the person you love knowing that they are in a great mood and that you are going to have a beautiful evening together. Plus everybody wants to know that the person they love is thinking about them. This is a simple and smooth emotional intimacy exercise for couples that can easily be implemented into your life.
5. Take a 20-minute pillow talk break after work
This is another simple thing to do, but something we probably don’t think to do, and what better way can you think of to stop, unwind and separate the working day from your evening together?
6. Cook dinner together
Standing close together, supporting each other on a project that sustains each other whilst chatting, dancing, and sipping wine as you work is a perfect emotional intimacy exercise for couples that also sets the tone for a pleasant evening.