How to Be A Team Player to Your Spouse

How to be a team player to your spouse

Many happily married couples often report “teamwork” as a critical ingredient to a happy marriage. Most of us would agree that we want to send a message to our partners that we are on their sides.

Here are some ways to show solidarity and teamwork within your marriage:

Eyes wide open

Studies show that people often retain more information when they make consistent eye contact with the person they’re listening to. Taking the time to be an active listener can not only help you to retain more necessary information that your spouse is trying to communicate to you, but can have enormous value in preventing future misunderstandings. Not only is communication often improved, overall, from active listening , but it can assure your partner that you take him/her seriously.

Share responsibilities based on talents

Research indicates that couples often report more success at running a household when chores are delegated based on personality traits. Rather than trying to delegate responsibilities, evenly, you might want to handle a more lopsided arrangement, as long as each of you are content and comfortable with what you’re being asked to do. Individuals often report have an easier time forming productive habits if they perceive that they are successful at them.

Play simultaneously

Many married couples often report feeling pressure to enjoy the same activities as their spouses. Your varied interests, however, can often be enjoyed while in the presence of your spouse, even if the two of you are doing different things. For instance, many happy couples report doing simultaneous activities like reading in bed while the partner watches TV on a headset, so as not to disturb the one who is reading. There are a great many ways to get creative so that you can spend time in each other’s presence while doing different things.

Putting in the effort to find ways to keep each other happy and enjoy your differences, side by side, can definitely foster a sense of teamwork. Not wanting your spouse to compromise on his/her interests just because you’re doing something else can send a message that you want each other to be happy and are willing to work together to find a way to do so.

Denise Limongello, LMSW, is a passionate and dedicated therapist who obtained her
graduate degree from Columbia University, School of Social Work. She is also a
graduate of Miss Porter’s School and Tulane University. Denise began her clinical career at The Renfrew Center of New York and has since then worked across all levels of care including Inpatient, Partial Hospitalization, Intensive Outpatient, and Outpatient, Private Practice settings.

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