You and your partner have grown apart. It doesn't feel like the type of relationship you envisioned from the start. Connection and intimacy used to feel easy & real. Now, it's difficult to remember the last times you genuinely felt confident about the emotional space between you.
Most relational arguments are caused by a failure to connect emotionally. Your arguments have become too hurtful and too often. You've built a life together, and you need to get back to the heart of it.
ARE you there for each other?
ARE you emotionally:
If either you or your partner would answer "No" to any of these questions, then we can understand why you may be ready to invest in your relationship.
If you're married, then your relationship may have changed over time, but your marriage vows did not and they still echo in the background. You remember how enchanting that "first dance" felt once upon a time.
Now, your relationship moves & grooves to a different tune.
Even If you're not married, then your relationship still may have changed over time. The argumentative and disconnected Relational Tango doesn't feel right. You trigger each other, and this dance is exhausting.
You want to connect and feel securely attached with your partner. Unhealthy relationship patterns do not just happen over night, and they may not change over night either. The consequences of inaction and maintenance of the status quo are huge.
You and your partner can, hopefully, at least agree that whatever plan you may have had to sort things out for your relationship wasn't really working, and it seems like you need a new plan. Couples in relationship may have multiple and diverse reasons for starting couples therapy. Whatever your reasons, they're personal.
Attachment Theory guides Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) interventions while getting to the emotional heart of safety, trust, and vulnerability in order to promote understanding, increase stability, and build more secure relationships.
"What counts in making a happy (couple) is not so much how compatible you are, but how you deal with incompatibility."
- George Levinger
Matthew Braman is also listed in Best Marriage Therapists in Albany
Licensing & Certifications:
- License State: New York
- License Number: 086388, received 2017
- LCSW in New York (086388); LCSW in Georgia (CSW006817), LCSW-C in Maryland (28137)
- Life Transitions
- Marital and Premarital
- Trauma and PTSD
Types of Therapy:
- Dialectical Behavior Therapy
- Acceptance And Commitment Therapy
- Gottman Method
- Internal Family Systems Therapy
Services Provided Via:
- Telehealth via Zoom
Working With Marriages for:
- 9 Year(s)
Free Phone Consultations?
Hourly Fees Range:
- $150 - $200