Everyone has a reason for how they act. Judging people for it is pointless. I have a unique approach to saving marriages: I start with each person separately. That's in order to strengthen each person's Inner Authority, Emotional Agility, and Intentional Self-Adoration. Only with these in place are couples then ready for Compassionate Honesty. And only when they're communicating from their hearts - but lovingly - is room made for Intimacy. My approach is a mixture of therapy and coaching because only when you make the effort to apply new skills does it stick with you and become part of you.