The Untold Realities of Being in a Relationship
There will be times where you start questioning the worth, the validity, and the purpose of your relationship with your partner wondering; Is this really it? Is this the peak of our relationship? Is my life always going to be like this? What if I want more, what if everything was different would I still feel this way.
These are just mere examples of what your mind can put you through to question the very relevance of your relationship and make you perceive that you’re not truly happy and you’re not quite satisfied.
Things only get more confusing, frustrating, uninteresting and distasteful from here on out and you feel as if you need to run away from all of this, your partner your house, and get your identity back and somehow start over.
But before you do that give this article a read, and then decide.
Your feelings are just not the same anymore
Do you feel empty inside?
Like you don’t know when it happened, but your once affectionate feelings for your partner have just disappeared.
You’re in a state of indifference; the small quirks you adored about your significant other, the internal rush of an uncontrollable passion you felt when they touched you, when you looked in their eyes and felt a warmth of compassion, and how you thought about them all day; has all lost its meaning to you; it doesn’t matter to you anymore.
If it happens, don’t be too hard on yourself, you’re going through a phase, but don’t make any hasty decisions; talk it out with your close friends or family and work through this time.
Just keep this in mind that everything you feel is a universal phenomenon and you’re not experiencing it alone.
You’ll learn that love is overrated
Love is a vital ingredient in any relationship, but love is unfairly over-hyped, and it becomes a notion more than an emotion.
If it goes away for some time, then that’s completely okay.
Emotions often change, and no emotion can overstay its course; you can’t be angry or happy or sad all the time, and with love, it works much the same way; you can’t be in love 100% of the time.
It does not at all mean that its presence has permanently vanished, it’s just on a timely break; know this that the foundations of your relationship are defined by many other entities besides just love.
The relationship is based on respect, compassion, loyalty, forgiveness, communication, compromise and so much more.
Just love alone can’t sustain your marriage you need many other elements, and as far as love goes its concept and reality can vary for you, just learn to work on it.
Your partner can’t completely understand you
So now that you’ve found your partner, everything will automatically fall into place, right?
No, it won’t.
Your partner won’t always be receptive to what really goes on inside your mind, they won’t always be able to grasp you as a person to your true core, and you’ll feel incomplete and misunderstood at times like they do not really know you and probably never will.
You need to remove this unrealistic illusion of your partner delving into the very fibers of your soul and knowing all the bits and pieces that make you who you are; they’ll figure you out to a great extent but they can only understand so much, and that’s okay too.
You can always communicate your heart and mind but never expect another person to exactly know your individualist existence the way you actively experience it.
You’ll break more times than you can count
Those walls you’ve let down will expose you to a lot of hurts; you’ll get your heart broken countless times, you’ll get damaged and shattered many times, and time and time again you’ll recover from the pain.
Arguments and fights will lead you to suffer emotionally, but their resolution will build you up as a person too; your relationship will also strengthen.
The wear and tear come with the whole package, and it will be the most difficult part of your relationship, but it is inevitable; it rains, it storms, and it shines nothing is constant or perfect.
But learn to be forgiving, understanding when it comes to your partner it’s only human to make mistakes, don’t let resentment get the best of you. Once both of you get through this, you’ll only come out stronger.
You’ll lose valuable friends
The ones you held so dear and close to your heart once will entirely diminish into the background, and the love you’ve shared with your closest of friends will only remain in the form of unbreakable bonds as your priorities change once you get married and inevitably life takes a different path for you and everyone.
You’ll get over it eventually; it’ll be for the best.
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