The subconscious is where our visualization conveys a message to other parts of the brain that ultimately bring the form to our desires.
In the subconscious, the soul powers are at work, giving subtle messages of guidance called intuition.
These two minds communicate back and forth using programming, experiences, feelings, emotions, and intuition, or guidance.
Does the question then become to whom do we respond?
More often than not, we react to what we think, which is more comfortable since it’s known. Tying this all together is our ego/personality desiring the pleasure and gain of our programming and experience.
The conflict with this is the response to our decisions.
Society certainly has something to say about our perspective of things. Of course, it gets sticky when we form personal relationships and become intimate, divulging all our programming of life along with our experiences that may hold fear, guilt, doubt, shame, and judgment.
Clarity means we must move on from certain beliefs and ideas about the world and others that include love, friends, and of course, our dreams to be clear about who we are inside.
We literally must become conscious of our subconscious programming, which automatically responds in the way we learned and experienced life.
Getting clarity on why we do what we do is problematic, especially when you consider the subconscious mind responds to life in two milliseconds while the conscious mind gets to a decision in fifty-five milliseconds.
And once it does make a decision, it is one filled with ego/personality, fear, guilt, doubt, shame, and judgment if we haven’t discovered our programming so we can choose a better option which should resonate more honestly with how we feel.
Feelings are truth; thoughts may or may not be the truth.
The easiest way for choice and awareness for being your authentic self is through personal relationships, more specifically from intimate or marital relationships. In other words, you try finding yourself in a relationship. And why?
Because we attract what we need to grow, we’ve projected our relationships into our lives to become the objectification of what we think and feel. Now programming and unprocessed experience are in full manifestation.
So we are attracted to another on the basis they represent something we think, like or admire. Of course in this attraction is a characteristic we admire but don’t seemingly possess.
The truth is, “we have in our selves what we recognize in others.” But, we sign a contract because our future partner brings that extra something to the table to build our ideal life. The polarization begins.
On the path of finding yourself in a relationship, your conflict has already started within yourselves, between what you think and what you feel.
So what you’ve attracted is the antagonist that will challenge you to de-program and choose who you want to be, where thinking and feeling must come into agreement.
Once the intimacy begins, the real challenge of finding yourself in a relationship is in full swing.
The into-me-see is divulging all our thinking, feelings, guilt, doubts, shame, and fears from our life. The relationship’s job is to overhaul our model of the world and ourselves.
Yes, its work! No one said evolution was smooth and easy. And coming from someone to whom you’re so vulnerable can make the challenge even more difficult. But, you attracted them to show you who you are as an individual, and they help you in discovering your authentic self.
The primary goal of a relationship is to show you your intentions and motivations for doing and being who you’ve become in every moment of your life. So, where is the responsibility in the conflicts in a relationship?
The truth is when someone pushes your buttons. It is a trigger to one of your programs or an unresolved experience. It is your responsibility to realize the fallacy of your perception and why we attracted the conflict, which, in reality, is a conflict within ourselves.
All problems start with your programming and your model of the world. All conflict resolutions end with taking responsibility and learning from the conflict.
Thinking is the basis for the reality you created. Feelings and emotions are the truth of who you are.
So, you should confront and share what you feel and try being yourself in a relationship. Not what you think.
When thoughts and feelings are in alignment, you stand in your authentic self. Joy is the final product.
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For more than forty years, Comprehensive Spiritual and Life Coach, Marvin L. Wilkerson, has helped thousands of clients to explore and embrace complete SOUL/MIND/BODY awareness. A Certified Consulting Hypnotist, Certified Medical Hypnotist, Certified Instructor, and Certified Master NLP, he offers cutting-edge techniques and modalities such as Ericksonian Hypnotherapy, EMDR, EFT, Enneagram Personality System, Emotion and Body Code Analysis, Life/Soul Energy readings.
Working with Marvin, individuals just like you, have enhanced their innate power to heal and maintain balance in their private and relationship lives.
Stability starts with the foundation of any structure. The foundation for relationships, as well as partnership, begins with honest communication. Understanding ones self is another cornerstone to building a relationship. Work starts with each individual. Next is the process of discovering what is the real disconnect between individuals. Getting to the root cause of any conflict is very important is the third cornerstone. Once found, a win/win situation becomes the last brick. Truths have now built a structure that forms the building. Getting to those truths and cornerstones is my job. Healing is yours, which, of course, is the natural human reaction once identified and accepted.
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