It is well known that marriages can become stale over time. It is pretty easy for any couple to walk down the aisle, take vows by looking into each other’s eyes and say ‘I do.’
But, how to keep your marriage fresh and alive, even after ten or many more years down the line?
Most of the couples run out of ways to keep their relationship exciting as the years pass by. Couples tend to take their marriage for granted and presume that their relationship should continually sail smoothly without having to put any extra efforts.
Couples need to remember that, when they can’t eat the same food, wear the same clothes and do the same work every day, how can they expect their marriage to not go awry if they keep doing the monotonous things every day?
How to keep a marriage alive?
It needs deliberate and sincere efforts for keeping the spark in a relationship alive and for keeping your marriage fresh.
Do you remember the last time, when the two of you sat down to talk, just about each other or went on a romantic date?
If you need to scratch your head to remember that last time, the two of you spent some quality time with each other, then you need to gear up and take some quick action to spice up your marriage and keeping your love alive.
Couples who report successful marriages often report working at them, consistently. Many people might be unaware, however, that there are a few critical steps that you can take to keep your marriage fresh.
How to keep a marriage fresh?
Here are some healthy relationship tips for couples to keep the romance alive in a marriage, even after several years of being together.
Try to follow these on a daily basis for keeping your marriage alive and exciting, just like it was at the inception.
We all have pet peeves, so most likely your spouse has many!
Taking the time to create an inventory of what annoys your spouse the most can be of tremendous importance when working toward making sure you two get along, consistently.
The more aware you are of what annoys your partner, the greater the likelihood that you can avoid mishaps and arguments and keep your marriage fresh.
Trying to be attentive and awake to what bothers your partner can be a great measure for being a considerate partner and can enhance your relationship.
Don’t forget to say thank you
Studies show that people feel increasingly valued when thanked.
Additionally, studies have shown that when feeling valued, it can increase motivation to help those who appreciate them. Making your partner feel valued can undeniably enhance your relationship.
Expressing your heartfelt gratitude will also lead to your partner’s increased motivation to willingly help you and work with you when you need them.
Taking the time to thank your partner, as often as necessary, can be a great way to make sure they feel valued and loved.
Apologize when you falter
When you value your relationship more than your ego, it shouldn’t be a backbreaking task for you to apologize for your mistakes.
Say a genuine sorry, when you happen to botch up any situation or hurt your partner inadvertently. To keep your marriage fresh, try to get your partner talking into what has hurt them so that you can avoid doing so in the future.
If you find your partner irrationally fretting over your actions or behavior, take some time-out and try explaining them later, when they are in a calm state and receptive mood.
Prepare a favorite dish
We all know that certain foods can be associated with celebration. Research shows that preparing food for someone can elevate their mood and make them feel loved and cared for.
Preparing your partner’s favorite dish on any given night, rather than just on special occasions can not only make your spouse feel more loved but also symbolizes that your marriage is a celebration, in and of itself.
Favorite meals or “special dishes” do not, necessarily be reserved for holidays and birthdays.
If you’re not much of a cook, then taking the time to pick up your spouse’s favorite dish from a store can still be a nice surprise to make them feel special and keep your marriage fresh.
It is very important as a couple to invest some time doing a few things together, to keep your marriage fresh.
It could be any activity like decorating or cleaning up your house or doing the garden or working out or cultivating a new hobby together.
You can even watch a movie or a television series together, but instead of indulging in some sedentary activity, it is anytime better to indulge in some activity, where the focal point is not the activity, rather the couple time is.
Doing things together, that both of you enjoy can make you discover new facets about each other, that you might not be aware of despite being in a marriage for long.
Work on your intimacy
We are living in a world where even 24 hours seem short to manage our daily chores efficiently, without cribbing.
Office work, kids, and other mundane jobs can bog you down so much that physical intimacy inadvertently takes a back seat and the partners happen to grow apart.
If you have been thinking of ways to spice up your marriage and things to do in a relationship to keep it fun, work on your intimacy.
Sex is inevitably important in keeping a relationship alive. Sex is the only thing that makes two people more than just friends and is one of the important cornerstones of a fulfilling marriage.
But, it is not always necessary to go on a sex spree to spice up your married life.
To keep your marriage fresh and kicking, simple affectionate touches or warm hugs or cuddling up against each other can do wonders for your relationship and bring you both closer, both physically and emotionally.
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